Let Go Of The Past. How to heal from hurtful experiences.

Dealing with your past

How to go through life without allowing our past to spoil it?  What to do when you’ve been hurt or what should you do when you were the reason someone was hurt?  Christian singles, while trying to meet someone online, should make sure that they deal with such questions, as Dr. Jim explains in this new blog post.

Dear Jim: Have you let go of the past?

Each of us has been impacted by some event in our past – good or bad. As I grow older, I am reminded over and over that it is easier to slip back into our past. The past should be taken into consideration as lessons. Embrace the good that came from your past, and let go of those things that were negative.

Choosing the right criteria for a soulmate

Choosing right criteria for a soulmate?

Christians singles, who are looking or searching dating websites for a soulmate, should be able to look at themselves first, and find the kind of person they are looking for and the qualities that are most valued in a relationship, before trying to meet someone online.

Dear Jim: Why won’t people face who they really are?

The email is still in my inbox with this question. It is not an unusual one as I often receive emails with similar questions. This person went on to state that most singles that she meets are caught up in the physical side of a relationship and do not seem to care about the numerous other things that make a relationship compatible. I must state that my experience relating to single adults reveals the same fact.

What to do when guys are more interested in the physical?

guys interested in the physical

When singles let the physical get in the way while searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right. What should single Christian men and women do to avoid falling into the physical trap? Some dating advice from Dr. Jim. Read on!

Dear Jim: Who’s on this road anyway????

An email was received from a very frustrated woman this week. She shared how she has really been improving in her life and is in transition, but finds that this turns men off as she put it. She is a divorced woman with child and says that this is a negative too. According to the matches, she is closely matched to several men, but none of them wish to pursue getting to know her.

Can a divorced Christian date and marry again?

can I remarry after a divorce?

After a divorce many Christians are afraid to date again as they are not sure if they are following God’s laws about divorce. Dr. Jim points out what God requests from us and what divorced Christians should expect or do to make sure they are doing the right thing in the Bible.


Disagreement at the Initial stage of a relationship.

Disagreement at the initial stage of a relationship
Every single relationship experiences disagreement, however, the ones at the initial stage of the relationship can become big indicators of whether single Christians should pursue a deeper relationship or move on. Dr. Jim explains the best actions to take.


How to make friends

Friends, How christian singles can make friends?

Some Christian singles have a hard time making friends. What should you look for in new friends?  Should you look for friends from your gender or is the opposite ok, too? Dr. Jim gives some insights in looking for the right kind of friends for you.

Dear Jim: Whatever happened to friendships and what should you do to make new friends?

Building friendships has become a lost art in today’s society. I am not sure why, but so many do not have genuine friends whom they can turn to for support and encouragement. (more…)

Helping others or being taken?

being taken
Being a Christian means things like giving and walking the extra mile for others. But does it mean that single Christians shouldn’t be careful about whom and how, and even if they should help others? Dr. Jim gives guidance for those searching for the “Christian” thing to do.

Dear Jim: Where is the line between helping others and being taken by others?

Most Christian single adults are very caring and giving individuals. They try to live their lives the best they can according to the Bible and the leading of His Spirit. At the same time they are also dealing with the reality of the world around them and the effect the choices of others has and continues to have upon them. This combination too often generates some events that are not always healthy ones.

What is love when seeking a soulmate?

What is Love

What is love really like when you are seeking a soulmate? Do Christian singles know where their focus should be and what to look for in a person? What makes a great relationship or a disastrous one? Below are some great points to consider when searching for love online.


Relationship advice: When to share your past.

Relationship Advice

When is the best time for singles to let a potential date know details from their past?  This relationship advice is for Christians who are afraid to share their past for fear of losing someone they’ve met.

Relationship Questions: How to keep your expectations in check.

Relationship questions

Many Christian singles use the Internet to search for a soul mate. They can find themselves torn when their expectations aren’t met by the one they thought was going to be ‘The One’. Dr. Jim responds to some relationship questions about online dating, and things to avoid.