The Will of God in Relationships

Will of God - in Relationships

Dr. Jim discusses confusion over God bringing someone into one’s life. How do you know what is the Will of God when in a relationship?


Sometimes I receive a number of emails in a relatively short time that contain a recurring theme. Such is the case with many recent emails received.
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Broken Trust and Relationships

Broken Trust & Relationships

Pastor Jim discusses broken trust in relationships, how to rebuild that trust, and when and how to move on.


Trust takes time to build, but can be lost in a moment

Trust is such a valuable item. It takes a lot of time, energy, and consistency to build trust but it can be lost in a moment. I like to go to the dictionary to ground myself in the source of the word. Webster defines trust as: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.
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Christian Dating & Kissing

Kissing & Christian Dating

Pastor Jim shares his thoughts on kissing and cuddling while in a Christian dating relationship. What are your thoughts? Do you agree? Give this advice piece a read and let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

Aside: We have more than a few testimonials (including Carolyn and Marty – “Our first kiss was at the altar” – and Veronique and Thomas – “And, yes, that [wedding] day we exchanged our very first kiss on the lips”) of couples who waited until their wedding day to have their first kiss.

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Online Dating Etiquette Tips

Online Dating Etiquette

Here are some quick online dating etiquette tips for you online daters. You may read them and think these are common knowledge but you would be surprised how many online daters do not follow them.
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How to Heal a Broken Heart

How to Heal a Broken Heart

Dr. Jim provides advice on healing a broken heart, with a discussion that includes why some singles seem to remain single – and the steps to take (and not take) to regain emotional balance in your life.


Single adults realize quickly that dating involves taking risks. It is a challenging process to find ‘someone’. Perhaps it is even more challenging when that one does not turn out to be ‘the one’ and the relationship ends. The emotional turmoil that follows is often painful. How one goes about dealing with this brokenness is essential to future healthy relationships.
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She Was About to Give Up on Online Dating

Maricela, in Bakerfield CA, was about to let her ChristianCafe.com account expire. Right before she did, however, she received a message from Damon, who was stationed at Camp Pendleton.
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Seeking Your Perfect Match?

The Perfect Match?

In today’s advice column, Pastor Jim discusses the notion of finding “The Perfect Match


As I interact with single adults, it quickly surfaces that there are many who have too high expectations for a match, or many who have very low standards. A great myth that keeps many dating sites profitable is the belief that if one searches long enough they will find the perfect match. This approach reminds me of the saying about finding a perfect church, if you find one DO NOT JOIN for it will no longer be perfect! This is certainly true when it comes to finding the perfect match in a relationship.
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Online Dating First Messages: What to Write (and Not Write)

The first message when online dating.

You’ve signed up with an online dating site, and you’ve found someone that you’re interested in. Instead of sitting back and waiting for them to contact you (no, really, make the first move!), you start to craft your first message to them.

First off, you want to make it easy for them to respond. Secondly, you want to capture their attention, so they actually do respond. Finally, you want to make yourself seem likable, so they want to write back.

So, what should your first message consist of (and not consist of)? We’ve got some tips for you to help your chances of getting a response.
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Relationship Advice: Ask Questions!

Asking Questions vs Making Statements

Is there correlation between questions and good relationships?

Dr. Jim explores the topic of making statements versus asking questions – and how that can affect human dynamics, especially in relationships. We’re thinking this can be applied well when conversing with other singles on online dating sites, when on actual dates, and – of course – in dedicated relationships.
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Christian Cafe Promotion Code / Coupon / Discount Code – Do I Need One?

Do I need a Promotion Code to enjoy the Free Trial of ChristianCafe.com?

You do NOT need a promo code in order to take advantage of the Free Trial of ChristianCafe.com.

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