Dating and Conflict Resolution

conflict-resolutionDr. Jim provides advice on dealing with disagreements when in a relationship.

» If a disagreement surfaces in the initial stages of dating, what should I do?

Most singles are very self-conscious as they relate to others. When someone begins to interact with them and there are a lot of positives, it is disconcerting when suddenly a disagreement surfaces. What does this mean? Is it an indicator that this is not going to be a relationship and that they should ‘move on’?

Christian Mother’s Day Gift Idea

Looking for a gift for your Christian Mom for Mother’s Day? If your mom is single, how about buying her some time to meet other singles who share her Christian faith and values?

How To Break Up With Someone… and How to Survive a Breakup

How do I break up with someone?

In today’s dating advice post, Dr. Jim writes provides his thoughts on Breaking Up 101.

Does God Have Someone for Me?

Couple on Beach

Pastor Jim answers the question “Does God have someone for me?

I often like to respond to a question with a question. In this case, if we were sitting down across from each other, I would say, “Why do you ask?“. Your answer would give me insight into a vast domain of possibilities.

She/He Said “Let’s Just Be Friends” – Some Helpful Advice

Let's Just Be Friends

Dr. Jim tries to help you solve the “just want to be friends” dating situation.

» Dear Jim: When they say, ‘let’s just be friends’, is it time to move on?

Ahhhhh dating dynamics. What does she/he mean when they say “let’s just be friends“? It is always open to interpretation, but this one phrase likely comes up more than any other. Should the statement be taken at face value, or is there a hidden meaning? It really does depend upon many variables. Allow me to share some of them with you.

Should I Date Someone Who Has Been Divorced?

Date someone who is divorced?
Dr. Jim responds to the question “Should I date someone who has been divorced?”

30 Inspirational Christian Songs

Christian songs that inspire!
Cafe staffer Jen put together this fantastic list of inspirational Christian songs. Give them a listen and let us know in the comments below what you think. Likewise, please share with your friends if these songs brought you joy today. What other Christian songs would you add to this list?

Online Dating Stories by HopefulGirl

An online dating story...Today on the Cafe blog we talk with British writer ‘HopefulGirl’, who wrote the book
Would Like to Meet. This book details her four years on the Christian dating scene – which included a year on

Still Single in your 30s? Don’t Give Up Hope!

Still single?
Are you, maybe, in your thirties and still haven’t found the life partner God has for you? Have you lost hope in finding your match for life?

A Boundless reader writes:

“I’ve put a time limit on when I will stop looking for a suitable mate, but is this the wrong idea when the Bible says that there is a season for everything?”


Should I Date a Christian of a Different Denomination?


Pastor Jim responds to the question about interdenominational dating.

» Should I date a Christian outside my own denomination?

I know of no scriptural reference that says you should not date someone outside of your own denomination. However, I do suggest that there are practical considerations that you should think about and let them guide you.