Dating Advice for Widows

Dating Advice for WidowsPastor Jim provides advice regarding widows and dating.


I am pleased at the “peace” you have regarding your husband and his presence with our Lord. While it does not remove many of the things you are learning to deal with, it is a great gift.

Before you entertain dating, I do have some suggestions for you. Allow me to share them as points below for your consideration.

Living Together Before Marriage: Advice

Should this happy couple live together before marriage?
Pastor Jim provides advice on the topic of cohabitation before marriage, providing both biblical and non-biblical reasoning.


Demos have become a way of life in most parts of the world. We would not buy a car before we drove it and ‘checked it out’ – nor a television and even a piece of clothing. So many singles come from painful past experiences and they want ‘to be sure’ that they do not experience this again. The logic often develops that if this is true for other less important things, then a ‘test’ drive before marriage would certainly be in order.

Online Dating: How Long Does It Take?

Some jump into online dating thinking that they’ll get instant ‘success’. Yes, that sometimes happens, but for many that’s likely not the case.

In God We Trust – Happy 4th!

Happy 4th of July to our American friends!

July 4th - In God We Trust - Happy 4th of July!

Ask The Person You’re Dating for a Credit Report?

Ask your potential spouse for a credit report?
Money is one of the most common reasons for a couple divorcing. Thus, it’s important to be with someone who is compatible with your idea of financial prudence. That said, would you go as far as asking your potential spouse for a credit report? Pastor Jim weighs in.

Would you like to see a Credit Report for someone you are considering dating? Would you provide a Credit Report if someone asked you in consideration of building a relationship?

Sadly too many single adults have made poor choices, or been impacted by the choices of others, that place them in poor financial condition. The force to connect sometimes prompts people to take risk beyond reason. The results are more often than not devastating to their financial health. I strongly encourage singles to stop before taking financial risks and seek wise counsel before taking the plunge. If this were true, would it not be prudent to obtain a financial report before entering into a possible relationship?

Am I In Love? How To Know You’re In Love

College was an interesting time for me, especially that first semester. I can still recall walking into my first English class. The professor appeared a few minutes later and introduced himself to us. Then he gave us our first assignment. He asked us to take a few minutes and to write out our definition for love. I found this very simple exercise to not be simple at all.

10 More Inspirational Christian Songs

Back from our last list of 30 Inspirational Christian songs, and the Top Christian Songs of 2012, we have ten more Christian songs to inspire you – as chosen by Cafe staffer Jen. Enjoy!


Christian Singles Worldwide

world-wideI think sometimes many of us think only of North America (the United States in particular) when thinking of predominantly “Christian” countries. Of course, there are millions of Christian singles across the globe. I’m guessing if you live in a country where Christianity is less common, it would be even more difficult to find that special someone who also shares your Christian faith and values. We encourage those from non-North American countries to try out as well. So, aside from the US and Canada, where are our other members from?

Dating and Conflict Resolution

conflict-resolutionDr. Jim provides advice on dealing with disagreements when in a relationship.

ยป If a disagreement surfaces in the initial stages of dating, what should I do?

Most singles are very self-conscious as they relate to others. When someone begins to interact with them and there are a lot of positives, it is disconcerting when suddenly a disagreement surfaces. What does this mean? Is it an indicator that this is not going to be a relationship and that they should ‘move on’?

Christian Mother’s Day Gift Idea

Looking for a gift for your Christian Mom for Mother’s Day? If your mom is single, how about buying her some time to meet other singles who share her Christian faith and values?