Trust. How much is your word worth?

Trust
Trust online dating

Dr. Jim explains why singles should make sure they don’t break their trust with others while searching for their true love. Some people using online dating can be deceiving and you need to ensure you’re always truthful, even more so when you’re a Christian. Playing games or taking advantage of other people’s feelings is not the way to go if you truly want to meet your Mr. or Mrs. Right online.

Trust. How much is your word worth?

There was a time – long, long ago – when you would often hear the expression ‘Do you give me your word?’. These were the days when a handshake between people was a bond and a trust and could be counted on to not be broken. There are a few of those folks around, but the ‘word’ today is to “beware”.

Disappointment from being let down?

Disappointment
Disappointment

Dear Jim: How can I guard myself from being hurt from the hurt and disappointment that accompanies being let down?

Do you find yourself in a cycle of being let down by others? Do Christians and non-Christians say one thing but when it comes time for action, they just don’t deliver? The pain that comes from such repeated cycles is tremendous and needs to be addressed rather than allow it to ‘imprison’ one from his or her future and the necessary element of trust.

Why doesn’t God bring a spouse into my life?

Spouse.
Why isn’t God bringing me a spouse?

Are you one of those singles who have a hard time understanding why God hasn’t brought you your future spouse yet? Dr. Jim writes about finding help when loneliness takes over.

Dear Jim: Paul says it is better to marry than to ‘burn’ with passion. If this is true, then why doesn’t God bring a spouse into my life?

Christian singles are awesome people. They so desire to live their life for God and be filled with His Spirit, but they are often filled with the passion for a spouse. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that it is a moral challenge to not marry and therefore it is good that one does. If this is true, then why does God not provide a mate for everyone who desires one?!

Addicted to Pornography.

Pornography
Pornography and the Christian singles today.

Dr. Jim illustrates how damaging addition can be, even moreso with sexual addiction.   What should the Christian single do if they find themselves trapped in this devastating addition?  

Dear Jim: What advice do you have for an attraction to pornography on the Internet?

Today I enjoyed lunch with a long time Christian friend who is an Elder in the church I attend. In the course of our conversation he shared about an experience at a recent Church Men’s retreat. The men were asked to complete a survey. One of the questions asked was if they had participated in any form of pornography in the past 30 days. 70% of the men replied YES!!!

Bible verses that helped me during the darkest hours.

Bible Verses
Bible Verses

Here are some great Bible verses for those who are seeking forgiveness. And, ones showing how the Bible can help us overcome our guilt and struggles. In this blog post, Dr. Jim shows which verses he used when he was struggling and feeling guilty for his past sins.

Resources in the Scriptures

The Bible came to be a steady diet of encouragement and grace during the darkest hours of my journey.  I felt worthless and lonely beyond description.  In spite of my “feelings”, God was reaching out to me and had wonderful words that my thirsty soul longed to hear. 

Satan often visited me and reminded me of my “sins”, especially that I had committed adultery.  I memorized the following sets of Bible verses verbatim.  Whenever I felt “under attack”, I would begin to say them out loud – one after the other.  When I finished, Satan was no where to be found!  There was not one time that this did not work for me.  

Masturbation: What does God say about it?

masturbation
Masturbation

Today’s topic is brought to you by Dr. Jim. He explains how single Christians should deal with their natural urges like masturbation and how to seek what God really wants from us.

Dear Jim: What does God say about masturbation?

Here is a topic that is seldom discussed in Christian circles but certainly one very applicable to the single life. I do not find a “black and white” answer in the Bible, but there are some elements that we can draw out of it. Let me share some personal perspectives first.

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year
Happy New Year

Dr. Jim provides tips about how to deal with disappointments and expectations.  Whatever life throw at us, we should learn to hold on to God’s promises to us in this New Year, with all the effects of the pandemic and stress creeping into our lives.

A Very Happy New Year To You!

The old year rapidly wound down and another New Year has just burst onto the scene. This event often floods our mind with a mixture of disappointment and expectations. What do you hear when someone says ‘Happy New Year’ to you?

A Christmas Story to encourage singles

A Christmas Story
A Christmas Story for Christian Singles

A Christmas story: so much meaning for us to embrace what is behind such a profound event! Are we allowing any room for God’s Spirit to enter and empower us during this Season? Are you giving Jesus a special place in your heart? Dr. Jim illustrates how important it is to have space for Christ in our hearts.

When a Christmas story is relevant even today.

Several years ago dear friends of mine were unable to have any children. This is a very sensitive issue and one that is not easy to endure around a church filled with families. My heart broke to see the anguish in their eyes as each Mother’s Day etc. was celebrated.

Anger: how should you deal with that emotion?

Anger
Anger how to deal with it.

How should Christians deal with anger? Dr. Jim offers advice on how to release yourself from this destructive emotion. He gives a personal account about how he dealt with similar feelings.

Dear Jim: How do I deal with the anger I am feeling?

Anger is not a sin! It is what we do with this emotion that may cause us to sin, but the emotion itself is not a sin. Christ was angry – but His anger was directed toward sin. It is okay to be angry against sin, but we often find ourselves angry for other reasons. Ephesians 4:26 instruct us to be angry, but to not sin or let the sun go down on our anger. We need to do something about it for it makes a super bad bedfellow!

Common-Law Relationships? Advice for Christian singles.

Common-Law
Common Law

Common-law relationships seem to be common for couples nowadays. What should Christian singles know about a relationship that isn’t God’s plans for His children? Dr. Jim gives his simple but Biblically-supported view of this, and sex outside of marriage.

Is God with us when we are in a common-law relationship?

Dear Jim: I have a unique situation in that God is with us as we live together outside of marriage (common law relationship). I would like to know what to say to other Christians who ask for my advice in wanting to do the same thing? I know why it is wrong from a moral and biblical realm. But, I know that God accepts us, and where we are at.