Do people see you as desperate when looking for love online?

Looking for love

When looking for love online, Christian singles can become desperate to find their match, which can become obvious to prospective partners to keep away from them. What is the correct approach for singles to be successful in their search for a life partner? Dr. Jim gives some insight on how to go about looking for love on a dating website.


Do women/men see you as desperate when looking for love?

The following words were received from a single adult:

‘I’m surprised at how many men can be so desperate to find a woman (I can’t speak of women’s desperation because I’m not being chased by women). Most seem to be hoping to find a woman to fill a void within themselves that only Christ can fill…the lover of our souls.’

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Real Love! What does real love mean?

real love
What is the meaning of real love? How can we honor Jesus’ sacrifice for all of us at Easter? What is the meaning of God’s love for humanity? Dr. Jim gives some insight about how Christians should honor Christ’s sacrifice this Easter. As Easter begins, let’s not forget that nothing speaks more clearly of God’s Love than the Cross!


Real love

The night was still and dry, as only it can be on the desert. It was so quiet with only a dog barking in the distance. The 33 year old single man had not slept all night as he wrestled with anguish in what he knew was about to take place when the sun came up. It would be a shameful day, one filled with great pain and rejection – a day he did not deserve.

Suddenly the glow of a candle faintly threw its glow across his room. He could hear voices down the hall as men were awakening and rising to the day’s activities. He found himself holding his breath as he awaited the beginning of the day of days.
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Starting a new relationship before divorce is final?

new relationship

Should Christians look for a new relationship before a divorce is final? Should a single person go ahead with a relationship with a person whose divorce hasn’t been finalized yet? Dr. Jim gives advice about the consequences and what is the best approach for situations like this.

Is it okay to begin a new relationship before the divorce is final?

The scenario is usually presented to me something like the following. The individual has been diligently searching for someone where there are strong compatibilities and attractions. One is found in their search and they enjoy a great initial experience. The other person then shares that they are going through a divorce and the papers are not yet final. Often what follows is a story of why it is taking so long or the many trials and difficulties that divorcing the other person is creating. These facts are not lies, although there may be some embellishment out of their own perspective and needs.

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How can I be sure that I’ll have good sex after marriage? Sexual Compatibility (Part 2)

sexual compatibility

In this article Dr. Jim explains why you should not have sexual relations before marriage and how to achieve sexual compatibility.  Sex is not everything in a marriage, but its satisfation grows over with time.  This is a must read for Christian singles who are searching for an informative article about sex.

How can I be sure that I’ll have good sex after marriage? (Part 2)

Part 1 provided the fact that God intended for sex to be a vital part of marriage. It went on to give some guidance to those who do not desire or who are not able to have sexual relations after marriage.

I’d like to share some thoughts on how one can gain a strong understanding of potential sexual compatibility after marriage.

Sex before marriage.

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How can I be sure I will have good sex after marriage? (Part 1)

sex after marriage part1

Christian singles struggle with the thought of knowing if their future spouse will be sexual compatible.  How do you find out if you’ll have a great sex life if you are not having sex before marriage? Dr. Jim explains what you should do and expect as a married person.

How can I be sure that I’ll have good sex after marriage? (Part 1)

The subject of sex is always a hot topic with single adults. Every article that I write on the subject is assured to have numerous responses. An often-received response asks how one can be assured that they will have a good sexual relationship after marriage, without having sex before. Good Christian men and women struggle with this question.

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