Disappointment from being let down?

Disappointment
Disappointment

Dear Jim: How can I guard myself from being hurt from the hurt and disappointment that accompanies being let down?

Do you find yourself in a cycle of being let down by others? Do Christians and non-Christians say one thing but when it comes time for action, they just don’t deliver? The pain that comes from such repeated cycles is tremendous and needs to be addressed rather than allow it to ‘imprison’ one from his or her future and the necessary element of trust.

Why doesn’t God bring a spouse into my life?

Spouse.
Why isn’t God bringing me a spouse?

Are you one of those singles who have a hard time understanding why God hasn’t brought you your future spouse yet? Dr. Jim writes about finding help when loneliness takes over.

Dear Jim: Paul says it is better to marry than to ‘burn’ with passion. If this is true, then why doesn’t God bring a spouse into my life?

Christian singles are awesome people. They so desire to live their life for God and be filled with His Spirit, but they are often filled with the passion for a spouse. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that it is a moral challenge to not marry and therefore it is good that one does. If this is true, then why does God not provide a mate for everyone who desires one?!

Addicted to Pornography.

Pornography
Pornography and the Christian singles today.

Dr. Jim illustrates how damaging addition can be, even moreso with sexual addiction.   What should the Christian single do if they find themselves trapped in this devastating addition?  

Dear Jim: What advice do you have for an attraction to pornography on the Internet?

Today I enjoyed lunch with a long time Christian friend who is an Elder in the church I attend. In the course of our conversation he shared about an experience at a recent Church Men’s retreat. The men were asked to complete a survey. One of the questions asked was if they had participated in any form of pornography in the past 30 days. 70% of the men replied YES!!!

Bible verses that helped me during the darkest hours.

Bible Verses
Bible Verses

Here are some great Bible verses for those who are seeking forgiveness. And, ones showing how the Bible can help us overcome our guilt and struggles. In this blog post, Dr. Jim shows which verses he used when he was struggling and feeling guilty for his past sins.

Resources in the Scriptures

The Bible came to be a steady diet of encouragement and grace during the darkest hours of my journey.  I felt worthless and lonely beyond description.  In spite of my “feelings”, God was reaching out to me and had wonderful words that my thirsty soul longed to hear. 

Satan often visited me and reminded me of my “sins”, especially that I had committed adultery.  I memorized the following sets of Bible verses verbatim.  Whenever I felt “under attack”, I would begin to say them out loud – one after the other.  When I finished, Satan was no where to be found!  There was not one time that this did not work for me.  

How to forgive yourself

forgive yourself
How to forgive yourself

Dear Jim: I have fallen and had sex outside of marriage. Can I ever be pure again and forgive myself?

So many emails are received from singles, men and women, sharing that they have fallen into sex in a relationship and now feel unclean and ashamed. They had no intention of doing this, but in a moment of dropping their guard, they quickly fell into the trap.

Age gap relationships. Dating someone much younger.

Age Gap Relationships
Age gap relationships

Dear Jim: Is it wrong to date someone of a much younger age?

This questioned is raised from time to time in an email from a single. The question about age gap relationships is either about men dating younger women or women dating younger men. Does the Bible have anything to say about this? No – there is no scripture that says Christians should not do this. Cultures may vary around the world on this, but God has no instructions in His Word that says anything about age and relationships.

How does God describe what sex is?

What sex is?
What sex is

Dear Jim: How does God describe what sex is?


Singles have wrestled with this question, in one form or another, since the beginning of time, I suspect. In another article, I have shared ‘why does God say not to have sex outside of marriage? (You can find this earlier article here: Sex Outside Marriage.

I often receive emails asking just how far can one go before it becomes sex outside of marriage?

Let’s begin with what Christ shared when He was on earth. Matthew 5:27-28 states the following:

‘You have heard that it was said, Thou shall not commit adultery: but I say unto you, that every one that looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.’

Masturbation: What does God say about it?

masturbation
Masturbation

Today’s topic is brought to you by Dr. Jim. He explains how single Christians should deal with their natural urges like masturbation and how to seek what God really wants from us.

Dear Jim: What does God say about masturbation?

Here is a topic that is seldom discussed in Christian circles but certainly one very applicable to the single life. I do not find a “black and white” answer in the Bible, but there are some elements that we can draw out of it. Let me share some personal perspectives first.

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year
Happy New Year

Dr. Jim provides tips about how to deal with disappointments and expectations.  Whatever life throw at us, we should learn to hold on to God’s promises to us in this New Year, with all the effects of the pandemic and stress creeping into our lives.

A Very Happy New Year To You!

The old year rapidly wound down and another New Year has just burst onto the scene. This event often floods our mind with a mixture of disappointment and expectations. What do you hear when someone says ‘Happy New Year’ to you?

A Christmas Story to encourage singles

A Christmas Story
A Christmas Story for Christian Singles

A Christmas story: so much meaning for us to embrace what is behind such a profound event! Are we allowing any room for God’s Spirit to enter and empower us during this Season? Are you giving Jesus a special place in your heart? Dr. Jim illustrates how important it is to have space for Christ in our hearts.

When a Christmas story is relevant even today.

Several years ago dear friends of mine were unable to have any children. This is a very sensitive issue and one that is not easy to endure around a church filled with families. My heart broke to see the anguish in their eyes as each Mother’s Day etc. was celebrated.