Happy New Year!

Happy New Year
Happy New Year

Dr. Jim provides tips about how to deal with disappointments and expectations.  Whatever life throw at us, we should learn to hold on to God’s promises to us in this New Year, with all the effects of the pandemic and stress creeping into our lives.

A Very Happy New Year To You!

The old year rapidly wound down and another New Year has just burst onto the scene. This event often floods our mind with a mixture of disappointment and expectations. What do you hear when someone says ‘Happy New Year’ to you?

A Christmas Story to encourage singles

A Christmas Story
A Christmas Story for Christian Singles

A Christmas story: so much meaning for us to embrace what is behind such a profound event! Are we allowing any room for God’s Spirit to enter and empower us during this Season? Are you giving Jesus a special place in your heart? Dr. Jim illustrates how important it is to have space for Christ in our hearts.

When a Christmas story is relevant even today.

Several years ago dear friends of mine were unable to have any children. This is a very sensitive issue and one that is not easy to endure around a church filled with families. My heart broke to see the anguish in their eyes as each Mother’s Day etc. was celebrated.

Anger: how should you deal with that emotion?

Anger
Anger how to deal with it.

How should Christians deal with anger? Dr. Jim offers advice on how to release yourself from this destructive emotion. He gives a personal account about how he dealt with similar feelings.

Dear Jim: How do I deal with the anger I am feeling?

Anger is not a sin! It is what we do with this emotion that may cause us to sin, but the emotion itself is not a sin. Christ was angry – but His anger was directed toward sin. It is okay to be angry against sin, but we often find ourselves angry for other reasons. Ephesians 4:26 instruct us to be angry, but to not sin or let the sun go down on our anger. We need to do something about it for it makes a super bad bedfellow!

Common-Law Relationships? Advice for Christian singles.

Common-Law
Common Law

Common-law relationships seem to be common for couples nowadays. What should Christian singles know about a relationship that isn’t God’s plans for His children? Dr. Jim gives his simple but Biblically-supported view of this, and sex outside of marriage.

Is God with us when we are in a common-law relationship?

Dear Jim: I have a unique situation in that God is with us as we live together outside of marriage (common law relationship). I would like to know what to say to other Christians who ask for my advice in wanting to do the same thing? I know why it is wrong from a moral and biblical realm. But, I know that God accepts us, and where we are at.

Life Cycle: Have you passed it or are you re-taking the exam?

A ‘Life Cycle’ in a Christian context is about ways for God to teach and show us how to grow our faith. Dr. Jim demonstrates that not falling for the same mistake twice is a way we can grow in our Christian life.

Life Cycle

Life Cycle

God shares His knowledge and love all around us. This week I was listening to Joyce Meyer when she made an interesting statement. ‘Are you passing the exam and moving on in your life, or are you having to retake the same test?’ What an awesome question about our life cycle.

Fornicating: How do I stop intercourse outside of marriage?

fornicating

There are many traps that cause us to detour from a healthy emotional and physical lifestyle, but perhaps fornication is the one that most often trips Christian singles. What does the Bible have to say about fornicating?

Fornicating

In 1Corinthians 6:18 the Bibles shares with us ‘Flee fornication. Every sin which a man may practice is without the body, but he that commits fornication sins against his own body.’ The Creator of our bodies provides a word in His instruction manual that having intercourse (fornicating) outside of marriage is actually harming his/her own body.

Are Erotic Dreams A Sin?

erotic dreams

Can a dream make Christian singles sin? How about erotic dreams? Can they be controlled? How should you deal with them? Dr. Jim points out that what we do in our waking can have a great impact on our dreams.

Dear Jim: Does God consider having erotic dreams a sin?

Dreams are something that I believe everyone experiences. I am not an expert on the subject, but I understand that there are many reasons that we have dreams. It is certainly not scientific, but I find that if I get hot during the night from being covered too much, I wake up tired from dreaming a lot.

God says no to sex outside of marriage.

Sex outside of marriage

Dr. Jim explains why is so hard these days to think clearly about a relationship when sex outside of marriage is at play.  Christian singles need to understand the power a sexual relationship has on us and how they can avoid falling into temptation.  This article explains why all singles, Christian or not, should avoid sex outside of marriage if they want their relationship to be truly fulfilling and God-honoring.

Advice For Single Christian Women: What’s wrong with men?

What's Wrong With Men
What’s wrong with men? Dr. Jim explains how to avoid future hurtful feelings when meeting Christian men online. Beware of false expectations at the beginning of an online relationship. We should never let our guard down and keep safety as our first priority when connecting with other singles via a dating website.


What’s wrong with Christian men?

You might ask: What’s wrong with men?  This question, or one similar to it, has been asked often in emails to me. Wow – does it open up a big subject. I have not received one from Christian men asking what is wrong with Christian women – but suspect I will soon.