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Advice For Single Christian Women: What’s wrong with men?

What's Wrong With Men
What’s wrong with men? Dr. Jim explains how to avoid future hurtful feelings when meeting Christian men online. Beware of false expectations at the beginning of an online relationship. We should never let our guard down and keep safety as our first priority when connecting with other singles via a dating website.

What’s wrong with Christian men?

You might ask: What’s wrong with men? This question, or one similar to it, has been asked often in emails to me. Wow – does it open up a big subject. I have not received one from Christian men asking what is wrong with Christian women – but suspect I will soon.

How do I choose a good Christian counseling professional?

Christian Counseling

Dr. Jim gives great advice on how to find a good Christian counseling professional who can help you deal with relationship issues, and other things that matter in your life. He explains how important is to get help, but more than that, it’s about finding a good counselor who can help you deal with and get through your struggles.

A Christian Counseling Professional: how to find one.

Allow me a premise as I begin to write this article. The premise is that each of us has a spirit and a soul. Our spirits relate to God and our souls relate to one another. Have you ever heard the term ‘soul mate’?

In the spiritual world, we find great benefit in seeking out those of more Christian maturity or training to give us insights. God has gifted many teachers of His word who make the scriptures come alive for us and give us deeper understanding. The insights gained allow us to walk in more freedom as well as in more awareness of who we are.

Feeling guilty. How to deal with guilt?

Feeling Guilty

When you feel guilty, what as a Christian should you do to overcome it? Dr. Jim explains how a person can have the Holy Spirit help him/her to deal with their guilt and what the Bible teaches about guilt

Feeling guilty. How to deal with guilt?

Life is filled with choices and too often we do not make the best ones. There are times when we have purposely made choices that later proved to be very bad ones (and painful). As the decision plays itself out, we begin to realize that this choice was very sinful and damaging to us and to others.

How to forgive? When asking or giving forgiveness.

When Christians ask themselves how to forgive or giving forgiveness to others: Dr. Jim explains what we should do and what is expected from us, as God’s children. If you’re looking for forgiveness or trying to find terms to forget someone who wronged you, this is a must read. This article can help you find ways to seek forgiveness and/or how to forgive someone.

How to forgive.

Life on this earth is not perfect. I know this will be a shock to some of you, but it just isn’t so. However, for Christians, this is as bad as it will get. I often think that life on earth is the Christian’s Hell. Have you ever wondered why God did not just take us straight to Heaven when we become His children? He always has a plan and this fact is certainly part of His plan.

Lonely Christmas – How to turn it into one filled with cherished memories.

Lonely Christmas

Some single Christians sometimes are afraid they are going to have a lonely Christmas. How to turn it into one filled with cherished memories and excitement? Dr. Jim talks about his own experience of spending Christmas alone. Not everyone is able to be with family or friends. How can we share our joyful spirit when we don’t feel happy?

Lonely Christmas Again

Ho, ho, ho or no, no, no?
Christmas is only a few days away and our world is filled with Christmas ads for shoppers. Radio stations are playing Christmas music 24 hours a day. Some start before Thanksgiving. It is a wonderful time of year – right? Well, not for many single adults. The emphasis only serves to magnify what they do not have as a result of their single status.

Love Addiction: Is the Internet your drug of choice? Part 2

Love Addiction afflicts thousands of singles. How can you deal with compulsive behaviour like this in a Christian manner? What is the void in their lives that they are trying to fill? Dr. Jim gives a detailed account on how to get help if you’re caught up in this kind of behaviour.

Love Addiction: Is the Internet your drug of choice? Part 2

How does one deal with compulsive behavior in Internet usage? I am not a trained counselor but some practical items come to mind that I invite you to consider:

1. You cannot “think” your way to stopping this behavior. (Intellectual)

2. You cannot “feel” your way to stopping this behavior. (Emotions)

3. To change one must deal with the force behind the behavior. (Self-image/Spirit)

Internet Dating Addiction: Is the Internet your drug of choice? Part 1

Internet Addiction

Christian and single and addicted to the web in trying to find a mate? A fun activity can become harmful for you and others around you. Dr. Jim provides a clear path on properly searching for your future spouse online and how the Internet can be a great tool – or a crutch to some singles. See how to realize you need professional help in deal with such situations.

Internet Addiction: Is the Internet your drug of choice? Part 1

Webster’s Dictionary for Drug: something (and often an illegal substance) that causes addiction, habituation, or a marked change in consciousness

Anyone who really knows me will tell you that I LOVE new technology. My professional career began with the automation of banking years ago. I was among the first in the insurance agency industry to automate my office to computers. The Internet has opened new doors and opportunities and I embraced the opportunity and calling to use it to serve single adults. I think that the Internet has brought one of the greatest revolutions to mankind that we will likely ever experience.

Domestic Violence – Signs to look for.

Domestic Violence
Dr. Jim explains how to spot early signs of a violent partner and how to guard yourself from falling into the trap of having a violent spouse and a broken marriage later on.

Domestic Violence

Domestic violence – What early signs should I look for to tell if a man might have the tendency to abuse women?

This is a great question and one that many women should be asking. I am not a trained counsellor and not able to provide the ‘clinical’ answer. However, I do have experience and insights as a Pastor relating to many single adults.

Unrequited Love – What are you to do?

Unrequited Love

Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.

“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?

This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.

No sex – How to share you don’t want to have sex after marriage?

No Sex

A few single adults (for various reasons) see their future marriage as having no sex in the relationship. They’re not sure when they should let the other person know about this when dating. Dr. Jim gives some useful insights on how to go about letting the other person know your desire is to have no sexual relations after you’re married.

No Sex After Marriage

No sex after marriage – When should I share with another person that I do not want to have sex after marriage?

For a variety of reasons, there are some adults who do not want to have a sexual relationship after marriage. A person of this persuasion realizes that most of the people of the opposite gender that they meet will want to have this in their future relationship. The concern is that in sharing the no sex desire will hinder the possibility of the relationship.