Internet Dating Addiction: Is the Internet your drug of choice? Part 1

Internet Addiction

Christian and single and addicted to the web in trying to find a mate? A fun activity can become harmful for you and others around you. Dr. Jim provides a clear path on properly searching for your future spouse online and how the Internet can be a great tool – or a crutch to some singles. See how to realize you need professional help in deal with such situations.


Internet Addiction: Is the Internet your drug of choice? Part 1

Webster’s Dictionary for Drug: something (and often an illegal substance) that causes addiction, habituation, or a marked change in consciousness

Anyone who really knows me will tell you that I LOVE new technology. My professional career began with the automation of banking years ago. I was among the first in the insurance agency industry to automate my office to computers. The Internet has opened new doors and opportunities and I embraced the opportunity and calling to use it to serve single adults. I think that the Internet has brought one of the greatest revolutions to mankind that we will likely ever experience.

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Bible Verses About Love – How can we learn how to love reading scripture.

Bible Verses About Love for singles

God is Love: 1 John 4:8.  This amazing verse tells us a lot about our Creator. With just 3 simple words we see how much God loves us. We decided to post a blog with a list of Bible verses about love for those singles who want to know more about what God has to say about love.  God is our perfect example, the perfect source on how we should love and how to learn to love others.   Enjoy some scriptures from the Bible about love, perfect love and true love!


Learning to love with God

Looking for great Bible love verses? We gathered few Scriptures that talk about love to show how our Lord cares about His children. We’ve compiled several of them. If you think we’ve missed one, or you have a favorite one, please let us know by writing on the comments section on one of your Bible verse about love.

Bible Verses About Love From The Old Testament

Genesis 2:18
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. . . .

Genesis 29:20
So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.

Genesis 31:49
May the LORD keep watch between you and me when we are away from each other.

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True Love – What is true love?

True Love

ChristianCafe.com guest writer K.L. Freebyrd writes about the real meaning of true love. This is about what some people dream about and what reality brings us. And, how building a solid relationship in Christ can make our relationships stronger with each other.


What is true love?

A question millions of us ask ourselves at some point in our lives, whether seeking a mate in the dating scene, or just after a breakup. It is a question that Christians and non Christians have struggled with throughout the ages. It’s controversial and often subjective.

Some people dream of a knight in shining armor saying all the right things at all the right times, without a single complaint, whisking us away off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Others may think it means having an undeniable, unfading connection with a soul mate who never argues and accepts us exactly how we are without judgment or strife. Sounds great, doesn’t it? There are just a few small flaws with that perception.

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Domestic Violence – Signs to look for.

Domestic Violence
Dr. Jim explains how to spot early signs of a violent partner and how to guard yourself from falling into the trap of having a violent spouse and a broken marriage later on.


Domestic Violence

Domestic violence – What early signs should I look for to tell if a man might have the tendency to abuse women?

This is a great question and one that many women should be asking. I am not a trained counsellor and not able to provide the ‘clinical’ answer. However, I do have experience and insights as a Pastor relating to many single adults.

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Blended Family

Blended Family
Dr. Wyatt talks about the dynamics of a blended family. Coming from a blended family himself, who better to talk about the topic? He tells us first-hand what parents and children should expect when living in this kind of family environment and how the members of the family can follow some easy steps to have a successful blended family!


Blended Family

With the divorce rate around 50%, blended families are becoming more the norm than the exception. Some of us may remember the old TV series The Brady Bunch where a beautiful blended family of 8 got along fabulously and every obstacle had a happy ending. If only real life were so simple. Most blended families are wrought with difficulty on a variety of fronts.

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Unrequited Love – What are you to do?

Unrequited Love

Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.


“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?

This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.

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No sex – How to share you don’t want to have sex after marriage?

No Sex

A few single adults (for various reasons) see their future marriage as having no sex in the relationship. They’re not sure when they should let the other person know about this when dating.  Dr. Jim gives some useful insights on how to go about letting the other person know your desire is to have no sexual relations after you’re married.


No Sex After Marriage

No sex after marriage – When should I share with another person that I do not want to have sex after marriage?

For a variety of reasons, there are some adults who do not want to have a sexual relationship after marriage. A person of this persuasion realizes that most of the people of the opposite gender that they meet will want to have this in their future relationship. The concern is that in sharing the no sex desire will hinder the possibility of the relationship.

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God’s Grace or Legalism?

God's Grace

What happens when God’s grace and legalism are at “war”?  What does God’s grace and mercy mean for us?  Is sin today the same as yesterday?  Is it ok for us to walk according to what we want or how we feel?   Sins and consequences of sins: these are some topics that Dr. Jim talks about to help Christian singles stay focussed on God’s Word and His love.


Grace or legalism – which is correct?

The subject of emails to me seems to run in patterns. Several emails have been received recently that relate in one way or another to whether we should be guided by those who say God is all grace, or those who propose that God is demanding and legalistic. What is interesting to me is the motivation ‘behind’ why one chooses to either submit to the ‘grace’ or ‘legalism’ theory. It appears that they want to live life by their definition and find a way to justify that action.

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I want to get married, but no mate yet.

I want to get married

“I want to get married”. Many Christian singles have this desire in their hearts, but over time they get discouraged, as they haven’t yet met that special someone. Dr. Jim has some encouraging words to help singles in trusting the Lord with whatever outcome He has for their lives.


If I want to get married (as God placed the desire within me to marry), why has He not provided a mate for me yet?

You pose an interesting question about desire and marriage. As I consider the question, I wonder if the desire to marry is one from God or one developed because of your personal desire. There are a lot of single adults that pose this question to me.

I want to honor your desires and feelings as I ask God to share through me. What comes to my mind is that there are often many desires in our lives that for one reason or another they are not realized. It is a human condition and we shall always be lacking in one way or another on this earth.

“The Need To Belong”

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