Addicted to Pornography.

Pornography
Pornography and the Christian singles today.

Dr. Jim illustrates how damaging addition can be, even moreso with sexual addiction.   What should the Christian single do if they find themselves trapped in this devastating addition?  

Dear Jim: What advice do you have for an attraction to pornography on the Internet?

Today I enjoyed lunch with a long time Christian friend who is an Elder in the church I attend. In the course of our conversation he shared about an experience at a recent Church Men’s retreat. The men were asked to complete a survey. One of the questions asked was if they had participated in any form of pornography in the past 30 days. 70% of the men replied YES!!!

Abusive relationship

Abusive Relationship
When you are caught up in an abusive relationship

Dear Jim: Is divorce an option to me if I come from an abusive relationship?

Life becomes very trying at times and some of us have had more than our share of difficulties. One of the most challenging is when one lives in an abusive relationship. I have found that what one calls ‘abusive’ is not necessarily the same as the definition of another.

Bible verses that helped me during the darkest hours.

Bible Verses

Here are some great Bible verses for those who are seeking forgiveness. And, ones showing how the Bible can help us overcome our guilt and struggles. In this blog post, Dr. Jim shows which verses he used when he was struggling and feeling guilty for his past sins.

Resources in the Scriptures

The Bible came to be a steady diet of encouragement and grace during the darkest hours of my journey.  I felt worthless and lonely beyond description.  In spite of my “feelings”, God was reaching out to me and had wonderful words that my thirsty soul longed to hear. 

Satan often visited me and reminded me of my “sins”, especially that I had committed adultery.  I memorized the following sets of Bible verses verbatim.  Whenever I felt “under attack”, I would begin to say them out loud – one after the other.  When I finished, Satan was no where to be found!  There was not one time that this did not work for me.  

How to forgive yourself

How to forgive yourself

Dear Jim: I have fallen and had sex outside of marriage. Can I ever be pure again and forgive myself?

So many emails are received from singles, men and women, sharing that they have fallen into sex in a relationship and now feel unclean and ashamed. They had no intention of doing this, but in a moment of dropping their guard, they quickly fell into the trap.

Age gap relationships. Dating someone much younger.

Age gap relationships

Dear Jim: Is it wrong to date someone of a much younger age?

This questioned is raised from time to time in an email from a single. The question about age gap relationships is either about men dating younger women or women dating younger men. Does the Bible have anything to say about this? No – there is no scripture that says Christians should not do this. Cultures may vary around the world on this, but God has no instructions in His Word that says anything about age and relationships.

5 Dating Questions To Ask

Dating Questions
5 dating questions to ask while dating someone.

Today’s blog post 5 dating questions to ask is by guest writer, Lauren Groff.

Lauren provides some great insights about what you should be asking when dating someone. Asking questions and finding out who they are and what their relationships with others are like will help you determine if that relationship is worth pursuing.

5 Dating Questions To Ask

As a Christian, dating often comes with additional challenges. You’re looking for compatibility on a deeper level, a mixture of attraction and spiritual connection. Finding a partner with the right moral values takes work. There’s a delicate line to walk in Christian dating – nobody wants to be quizzed about their fundamental beliefs on a first date, but you don’t want to waste your time with the wrong person!

How does God describe what sex is?

What sex is?
What sex is

Dear Jim: How does God describe what sex is?


Singles have wrestled with this question, in one form or another, since the beginning of time, I suspect. In another article, I have shared ‘why does God say not to have sex outside of marriage? (You can find this earlier article here: Sex Outside Marriage.

I often receive emails asking just how far can one go before it becomes sex outside of marriage?

Let’s begin with what Christ shared when He was on earth. Matthew 5:27-28 states the following:

‘You have heard that it was said, Thou shall not commit adultery: but I say unto you, that every one that looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.’

Happy Easter, Singles!

Happy Easter

Singles can sometimes feel lonely or disappointed about not having met their perfect match yet. Our blog post today takes a slightly different approach on this. It’s about the impact of Jesus’ actions in the world and in our own lives. And, that we shouldn’t take for granted the plans He has for each one of us.


Happy Easter

Given that our God is Love, when we find God, we also find love. We can love others better when we love God first. As the Bible says: “We love because He first loved us” (I John 4:19).

Ten Reasons You Should Allow God Control Your Love Life

Love Life
Love Life

Today’s blog features a guest post by Katherine Abraham.

Sure, we all long to love and be loved.

However, the journey in finding ‘The One’ isn’t always a walk in the park.  Some may find love early, while some will have to wait before it arrives.

They say love is fleeting and elusive. This statement may be true if we keep on chasing after love rather than gracefully allowing God to hand over love to us.

Keeping Your Faith Strong and Moving Forward

Moving Forward
Moving Forward

All human beings need love. People won’t be satisfied with their life if there’s no one who can support them and show them respect and love. That’s the reason, if we’re faithful, that God can send us someone who’ll complete us. However, as many people know, things in love and relationships do not always go in the right direction. After many months or even years of love, a breakup can suddenly occur. Moving forward is hard!