Who should pay the expenses on a first date?

first date and who pays

When the bill comes, who should pay it on a first date? Most men feel they should but some women don’t feel comfortable letting men pay on their initial date. What is the sensible thing to do? Is going “dutch” on a first date ok?


Dear Jim: Do you have any suggestion as to who should pay the expenses on a first date?

This is another question that I am often asked. Times have changed in many cultures and it makes it unclear who should be paying for the expenses. Allow me to share some thoughts as you consider this: