Does God have a soul mate for me or do I have to find “the one” myself?

Does God have a soul mate for me or do I have to look for one myself?

Often Christian singles are in doubt while searching for a soul mate, and a question comes up: has God selected a soul mate for me or is there more than one? And, will it be up to me to pick the right person? Dr. Jim shows us what we should understand about God’s desires for our lives.


Dear Jim: Does God have a soulmate for me, or is there more than one and it is up to me to find?

This question has been around a long time. Christian singles develop a variety of beliefs regarding this – thinking that they have THE interpretation from God/Bible. One thing is clear, the Bible does not directly answer this question for us. I suggest that an answer has to take into consideration the attributes of God as well as how He created us. Let me share some thoughts that contribute toward an answer.
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What to look for in a Christian relationship?

All the important things to look for in a relationship
Even before we look for that special someone on a Christian dating site, let’s learn how we should love – and see love.  It’s the best way to have a healthy relationship.


What things should I be looking for in a Christian relationship?

Our natural side often directs us to look for the wrong things when seeking a new relationship. Some of the forces at play are ‘normal’ drives, but they too often take on more significance than they should, for example, the physical side.  I don’t think that I need to direct any comments toward personal preferences that you may have, and these have their place. However, I would invite you to consider that things that are SO important in dating become relatively insignificant after marriage.
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Christmas Songs collection from youtube music videos.

Christmas Songs

Here are some of the most beautiful, inspiring, well known Christmas songs – from Christian to secular singers.  We all  (single or not) hear these joyful songs about Christ’s birth this time of year. We hope they bring back great childhood memories. You can also listen to great worship songs from the Worship Songs we chose, while enjoying some hot chocolate beside a warm fireplace (or imagining one)!
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What should I do with a troubled relationship?

Troubled relationship
When a relationship is going nowhere and/or what to do with a troubled relationship? Here are some good points about how to deal with stressful times and to rely on God for guidance.


Dear Jim: My relationship is not going anywhere – what should I do?

Relationship challenges come in all sorts of packages. For some it is how do I find one? For others, it is what do I do with the one that I am in??? I receive emails from those who have been dating for sometime and it does not seem to be going anywhere. They genuinely love/care for the other person, but nothing has seemed to move it to the desired marriage.
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Being Single and Trusting in God

Today’s post is for Christian single women and the heart-break of many who want to meet their special someone. Waiting on God for His timing is the key. Today’s guest blogger, Joanne Ellison, speaks from the heart in a short video.


Joanne Ellison: Many women come to me about being single when they want to be married. Let’s look at the book of Hosea to get some perspective on this.

About Joanne
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How should you react to profiles on Christian dating sites?

Profiles and Christian Dating Sites
How should you react while browsing profiles from other Christian singles online? What should the proper way be to deal with your feelings while keeping to God’s purposes?


Dear Jim: As I have reactions to pictures and profiles I find on Christian dating sites, is this the prompting of the Holy Spirit?

You have signed up for a Christian online dating service and you begin to read the profiles and view the pictures. You find that you have either a peaceful or uncomfortable reaction in doing this. Where is this prompting coming from? It could be several sources. Allow me to share some thoughts as you entertain what you use as criteria in selecting which profiles to ‘pursue’.

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Thanksgiving and its meaning for Christian singles.

Thanksgiving and Christian Singles

Thanksgiving should be a daily response of any Christian. This year’s message for our Christian singles friends is centered on thanksgiving, blessing, grace, and sacrifice.  Remember to praise the Lord, even in our darkest hours, for all that He has done, is doing, and will do for us.; He is in charge, no matter how lonely we may feel, at times! Let this Thanksgiving be a happy and a thankful one, no matter our circumstances.


As Thanksgiving nears, we should take some time to praise God for all the good thing He has done for each of us.

Like Christmas, Thanksgiving can be a difficult time for Christian singles to celebrate, as they feel “alone” even when they are gathered with family or friends. We should thank God by also helping others to celebrate this great occasion, by gathering with family and friends, be they married or single, so even if this doesn’t mean much for you it can mean a great deal for someone else who is feeling lonely at this time.
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Is your relationship in God’s will?

Relationship in God's will

What is God’s will for your relationship? Dr. Jim shows why you shouldn’t rush into a relationship while on an online dating service.  God will reveal His will over time; you just need to listen to Him.


Dear Jim: How can I be sure that the relationship I have started is one that is in God’s will?

As I relate to Christian singles, I often receive an email that includes something about God’s will in it. Perhaps the person says, “We met last week/month on a Christian dating site and it has become evident to each of us that our relationship is God’s will.” Or it will surface in a question “What’s is God’s will that I do about?”

I certainly believe in God’s will and know that Christ says that we should be busy doing the will of His/our Father. However the other words that follow in the emails often reflect a ‘rushing’ toward a desired victory.

Other emails are received with a heartbreaking story sharing how they just knew the relationship was God’s will, but the marriage, sex, or rejection is tearing them apart and they are very confused.

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Relationship advice on online power dating.

Online Power Dating

Online dating is a great way to meet other Christian singles. However, one has to be realistic and never put the dreaming in front of the friendship. There are some points that should be considered to make your online experience a healthy one.


Online Power Dating?

Do you find yourself being drawn to check your email often during the day? Do you feel some type of “force” within you pushing you to find a connection? Do you become very excited about the idea of checking for an email to you, and really depressed when you don’t have one?

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Worship songs for a searching soul

Worship Songs

Find some of the best worship songs playing right now in churches around the country! We hope these inspiring songs will let you hear God speaking to you, or just help you praise the Lord for Who He is and for what He has done for all of us. You can also listen to other great songs from this link: 30 Inspirational Christian Songs
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