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Unrequited Love – What are you to do?

Unrequited Love

Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.

“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?

This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.

No sex – How to share you don’t want to have sex after marriage?

No Sex

A few single adults (for various reasons) see their future marriage as having no sex in the relationship. They’re not sure when they should let the other person know about this when dating. Dr. Jim gives some useful insights on how to go about letting the other person know your desire is to have no sexual relations after you’re married.

No Sex After Marriage

No sex after marriage – When should I share with another person that I do not want to have sex after marriage?

For a variety of reasons, there are some adults who do not want to have a sexual relationship after marriage. A person of this persuasion realizes that most of the people of the opposite gender that they meet will want to have this in their future relationship. The concern is that in sharing the no sex desire will hinder the possibility of the relationship.

Top Christian Songs 2016

We’re back with the top Christian songs of the year. Last year we outlined the Top Christian Songs of 2015 and this year we’re ready to do it again with the Top Christian Songs 2016.

God’s Grace or Legalism?

God's Grace

What happens when God’s grace and legalism are at “war”? What does God’s grace and mercy mean for us? Is sin today the same as yesterday? Is it ok for us to walk according to what we want or how we feel? Sins and consequences of sins: these are some topics that Dr. Jim talks about to help Christian singles stay focussed on God’s Word and His love.

Grace or legalism – which is correct?

The subject of emails to me seems to run in patterns. Several emails have been received recently that relate in one way or another to whether we should be guided by those who say God is all grace, or those who propose that God is demanding and legalistic. What is interesting to me is the motivation ‘behind’ why one chooses to either submit to the ‘grace’ or ‘legalism’ theory. It appears that they want to live life by their definition and find a way to justify that action.

I want to get married, but no mate yet.

I want to get married

“I want to get married”. Many Christian singles have this desire in their hearts, but over time they get discouraged, as they haven’t yet met that special someone. Dr. Jim has some encouraging words to help singles in trusting the Lord with whatever outcome He has for their lives.

If I want to get married (as God placed the desire within me to marry), why has He not provided a mate for me yet?

You pose an interesting question about desire and marriage. As I consider the question, I wonder if the desire to marry is one from God or one developed because of your personal desire. There are a lot of single adults that pose this question to me.

I want to honor your desires and feelings as I ask God to share through me. What comes to my mind is that there are often many desires in our lives that for one reason or another they are not realized. It is a human condition and we shall always be lacking in one way or another on this earth.

“The Need To Belong”

Still married and flirting on Christian dating sites

Married And Flirting

When the divorce is not final and the person is still legally married but is using dating sites online: what should you do if you find yourself in a situation like this? Who gets hurt in the process when you find yourself still married and flirting online?

Married And Flirting

What is your opinion on those who are still married and flirting using Christian dating sites?

Perhaps one would expect me to come out ranting and raving about this. Actually my heart is broken as I consider this question. Over and over again I have learned that many who are still married are choosing to place an ad on a dating site and interact and flirting with others as if they were single.

Dating Sites Best Reviews: ChristianCafe.com

ChristianCafe.com has once again been featured on a best dating reviews site! Some Single Christians are looking for information before they start a free trial profile. What should singles look for in a dating site and what does ChristianCafe.com have to offer its members?

BestReviews.com details how ChristianCafe.com can help you in your search for your true love.

I Love You: The Most Intoxicating Words On Dating Sites!

I love you can be powerful but should you expect to hear that while using a dating site online?

I Love You: The most intoxicating words on the Internet!

Online dating can be fun and exciting. The thought of possibly finding someone who matches all your dreams and wishes is very motivating. I cannot imagine anyone approaching the Internet without the strong motivation that this could be the vehicle where they find their ‘love.’

One day you walk in and either find a profile that blows your mind or an email from someone who shares how they read your profile and found a lot of common ground. The words begin to flow (either from them or perhaps from you to them) as you share with excitement how much they match what you have been seeking. The excitement is heightened when the other person responds and they share your excitement. Wow – now hearts begin to pound and your mind races as you send emails blazing back and forth.

Dare To Dream? How to expand your possibilities!

Dare To Dream

Dare to dream and reach what God’s plan is for your life! How you can find strength to start believing in yourself and see what God’s plans are for your life (even you don’t believe you can do it). When in doubt, look, pursue, and find out how you can reach your potential and bless others with your gifts.

Dare to dream? Do you know how to expand your possibilities?

Many years ago I was sitting in the office of my Pastor discussing a variety of topics relating to our church. I was the lay leader for this year as well as the owner of an independent insurance agency. The conversation turned to what was I thinking about for my future. At the age of 35 years old my life had already been a great personal success and I was not giving much thought to the future.

Online Dating for Christians – Does God Approve of Online Dating?

Online Dating is a great way to meet and start relationship with other Christian singles. But is online dating ok with God? Is online dating good for Christian singles who are looking for a Christian mate, including to start a family? Dr. Jim shows how the Internet can be a great tool (or a bad one) for those looking to meet true love online.

Does the Bible approve of online dating?

Does God approve of one using online dating to try to find a mate? Does He want us to take the initiative in finding someone?

The modern world is a very interesting one to say the least. Several years ago we thought that technology would make our lives easier and we would have more spare time to kick back and enjoy life. It seems to me that with each ‘enhancement’ that technology has brought to our lives, it has brought a new set of circumstances and challenges.