Some Christian singles look at the singleness stage as a lonely period as they look hard to find someone with whom to start a meaningful relationship. Can the single person do something about it? What are the instructions found in the Bible? Should we be content whatever our circumstances?
Dear Jim: Single life is not fun for me. How does God expect me to be happy?
Many singles find themselves single after many years of wanting to be married or at least in a meaningful relationship. The more years that go by seem to generate more voices saying that something is wrong and yet, there seems to be nothing that you can do about it.
When the bill comes, who should pay it on a first date? Most men feel they should but some women don’t feel comfortable letting men pay on their initial date. What is the sensible thing to do? Is going “dutch” on a first date ok?
Dear Jim: Do you have any suggestion as to who should pay the expenses on a first date?
This is another question that I am often asked. Times have changed in many cultures and it makes it unclear who should be paying for the expenses. Allow me to share some thoughts as you consider this:
Can I date and eventually marry someone who’s divorced? What should I do if I found the right person, but he/she is divorced? What does the Bible says about it and what does God wants us to do?
Dear Jim: If I marry a divorced person, will I have committed adultery and go to hell as the Bible says?
This question pulls together several things that are actually separate issues. God hates sin, there is a penalty for sin, and there are certainly consequences. Before we ‘shoot’ all the divorced people and send them to Hell, I invite you to consider the following:
‘Where was God?’ when everything was going wrong? What should we expect when we see our world crumbling under our feet and the only hope we have is to wait for God’s timing and promise.
Dear Jim: Where can I find hope when all hell is going on around me?
Single Adults, many are going through a prolonged hell in their lives and the odds of ever finding a stable and joyful life again seem dim. My concern is that all of us not lose hope!
Do you know how many times the word ‘hope’ is mentioned in the Bible? I was surprised as I looked to some software I have for Biblical concordance. This word is spread throughout both the Old and New Testament. David’s words in the Psalms are especially meaningful. Take a look at some of David’s thoughts:
With the New Year, we see Christian singles seeking new relationships and their worries about running out of time to find that special someone. Dr. Jim explains that everything is in God’s hand and we should gear down and look at what is the best approach to seeking our future spouse.
Dear Jim: What is your hurry?
Time is an element of this world. The first ‘click’ of the clock was set into motion by God, and He will be the one to step in and stop the pendulum from swinging. Time totally controls our world, but time is not present in Heaven!
The Bible shares with us that, among other attributes, God is Omniscient (all knowing). Since He is not controlled by time, He knows everything at once. For us, we have to describe this as past, present, and future. God does not have a past, present and future – He IS, or as He stated it ‘I AM’.