Go to your Mailbox. Messages in your Inbox will be From a particular member, with a Subject and Date Sent. To read a message click the Subject (e.g. "Welcome Cafe Member!").
You need to read mail before you can delete mail. You cannot delete mail from your inbox if you have not yet read it. There are 2 ways to delete a read message you have received:
You can delete mail from your Sent folder and your Drafts folder by using either method listed above.
If you delete a message which has already been read by the recipient, the recipient's mailbox will be unaffected. That is, the message will disappear from your mailbox, but not from his/her mailbox. His/her mailbox will not reflect that you have deleted the message.
Is there any way to retrieve deleted mail?
No. Once mail is deleted, it's gone. So be careful what you delete.
There are many ways to write other members:
When you send your message you will receive either receive a delivery confirmation your message has been delivered correctly to the recipient or an error message detailing why your message cannot be sent.
When you check your Sent Messages folder in your mailbox you will see all messages you have sent, including the most recent message you just sent. You will also see the status* of that message:
A member cannot delete your message without first opening it.
* the status column cannot be seen on mobile devices because the screen is not wide enough. Please use a wider screen device such as a tablet, laptop or desktop computer to see the status column
You can send 50-75 messages per day*. You can browse as many profiles and pictures as you like and you have no limit to your access while you still have time in your account.
You also can view as many profiles and photos as you wish, login as often as you wish and stay online for as long as you like, take part in forum discussions, have unlimited chat time (paid members only), post prayers, etc., so long as your account has time in it. We encourage you to take advantage of everything our site has to offer.
* trial members are limited to 50 messages per day. To add time to your account and receive paid privileges please, see your Membership Page
In the faster world of automatic mail delivery, you might write something you wish you hadn't sent. Or, you might have made a key spelling error (e.g. you missed the word "not", which would change the intended meaning). The Delete feature in your Sent Messages folder in your Mailbox allows you to remove a message which has not yet been read by the recipient, and thus ensure they will never read it. You can of course send them another message which better conveys your intended wording.
See the instructions for How do I delete mail?
There are 3 methods you can use. The first one is probably the easiest.
The "You've Got Mail!" notice to your personal email is triggered the moment a member writes you (depending on your new mail notification setting). It is NOT triggered by Cafe Staff mail. If you received our email notification, then a member did write you.
One reason the new message is not there might be the sender deleted the message before you had a chance to read it. This may be because the sender changed his/her mind about what had been written or perhaps s/he hadn't realized you would not see the message if it was deleted.
Why have this delete feature at all?
Please see the answer to I didn't mean to send that last message! for 2 excellent reasons.
Another possible reason the message from the sender is not in your mailbox is the sender's profile could have been removed after s/he had sent the letter. When a profile is removed, all trace of that member is removed, including all mail s/he has sent or received.
We believe it is courteous to reply to messages one receives, however sometimes one can see the match is not going to happen. If you're at a loss for saying "not interested" in a courteous fashion...
Thanks for writing. This is just to let you know that I received your letter :-)
This letter can also be sent for a number of other reasons, including intending to respond more fully when you have more time. If you do intend to write later, make sure you do; otherwise, the recipient may think you are not interested!
Sometimes sending a polite note that you are not interested in further correspondence is not clear enough. In certain cases you may need to mailblock a particular member from writing you. Be aware though that blocking another member can be hurtful if no abuse has taken place.
To apply a mailblock browse his/her profile and click on the "Apply Mailblock" button beneath their photo slot. Blocking will prevent this member from viewing your profile and from sending you a message to your mailbox.
If you receive any particularly offensive messages we can look into the situation for you. Using the report button in the opened message or when viewing their profile, you can report the issue to us. Include details of the offense to assist our staff in its investigation. Then email it to us. Please ensure you read our conduct policy before contacting us.
How do I reverse a mailblock?
Go to your Mailblocked list to remove blocks. You can also browse a specific member's profile and click on the "Remove Mailblock" icon beneath their photo.