Be specific when filling out your profile rather than writing general responses which are more difficult to relate to. Consider the following answer to what kind of person you are:
Now consider the following, more appealing response:
Add a question or two in your answers which others might be able to answer for you such as in the last sentence in the example above. This will offer other members the chance they may be looking for to write you!
Don't let your profile get overlooked because you didn't add photos. Profiles with photos are viewed 10 times more than those without. Your profile photos are your first chance to make a great first impression. Choose good quality photos which show you in your best light. Select recent pictures you feel are flattering. Members are drawn towards those who look confident, happy and approachable, so keep this mind.
Post or update your photos now.
If you have interests or things you are passionate about, tell others about them.
If you really like gardening; if you like Big Cats like lions, tigers, hyenas, jaguars, etc; if you really enjoy cooking Thai cuisine or eating Ethiopian food; if you love the Toronto Maple Leafs, New York Yankees, Manchester United, or cheering on your son's Little League games; if you love going to Bible camp and laughing with other Christians and spending time learning more about one another and how we can grow closer to Christ - include this in your profile and tell others why you enjoy it! Mention what has shaped or changed your life. This will help paint a more accurate picture of yourself.
Be careful however, not to ramble on too much on one topic. You do not want to appear one-dimensional. Save the extra information for your correspondence with others.
When we smile and write, it shows! It tells others you are happy and well adjusted, and that you would be an excellent person to share one's life with.
Use your profile to display your sense of humour in a tasteful manner. Humour generates interest. Who wants to meet someone who sounds like they just stubbed their toe? Be aware of how you might appear to others. Take the time to review your own profile.
Everyone wants to meet an honest person. Dishonesty is the number one reason relationships fall apart. It is extremely important you portray yourself in an honest light prior to meeting someone face to face. If you spend too much time trying to be someone you think others will be attracted to, it will eventually come back to haunt you and you will have hurt yourself and possibly others in so doing.
So if you are an impulsive person, tell others you make quick decisions and sometimes not the best ones. Add that you seize the moment! If you have a tendency to stray from God when things are going "well" in your life, include this information in your list of personal goals. This indicates that although you have faults, arrogance is not one of them and that you are aware of where you need help in your life. (Someone special might help to keep you on track!)
Do not tell others every bad detail about yourself. Be positive in your profile, even about your faults. You want to show you are honest but you also want to show your confidence and your sense of humour in life. We all have our faults and those who dwell on their faults are not fun to be around at the best of times.
In short, dishonesty ruins relationships; honesty, mixed with Joy, builds relationships which last.
The best way to get mail from others is to send mail yourself. Once you have an appealing profile created, the next thing you need to do is write to others.
All members are waiting to receive mail so overcome your shyness and introduce yourself to lots of different members! Your profile will receive attention from the people you want to meet when you get the ball rolling and write to those who interest you.
Be as active as you can on the site. Log in to your account frequently to find new members to write to and respond to any mail you have received. Those who are online more often, are involved in sending mail, and join in on the forums discussions consistently report making more connections on ChristianCafe.com - including meeting that Special Someone.