Advice: Best use of the site

To meet lots of interesting singles on the Cafe:

  1. create a compelling profile
  2. interact as much as possible by writing others and using the forums
A profile with great photos and detailed answers makes all the difference! Make use of the various communication tools on the site to start up conversations. Be proactive in finding your special someone. These points, and others, are detailed below.

Create a Great Profile

  • Post a photo: More people will view your profile if you post your photos. Profiles with photos are viewed 10 times more than those without. For your profile photos, pick pictures you feel are flattering, in which you are smiling, looking both confident and happy. People who are self-confident tend to be regarded as more attractive than those who are less secure in their pictures. Show one where you are doing an activity you enjoy such as hiking, site-seeing, outdoors, playing a game, etc..
  • Write an interesting profile: The short answer section of your profile is where you can really express yourself and show other singles who you really are. Take advantage of this space to write detailed and interesting responses to the questions in your profile. Please read our list of tips on writing a more appealing profile.

Interact With Others

  • Write lots of different members: The best way to get others to notice you is to send mail to those you're interested in getting to know. There are thousands upon thousands of members on and everyone is waiting to receive mail, so don't be shy! When writing to others refer to something you read or saw in their profile. Some members receive a lot of mail, so it's worth the time to make your message stand out.
  • Introduce yourself to new members: View the new members section and be the first to introduce yourself. New members are eager to receive mail and will be more likely to respond to mail you send.
  • Take part in forums discussions: Read what other members have to say on a variety of topics and share your own opinions! Forums are a great way to fellowship and get to know others.

Final Tips

  • Be notified of new matches: We will email you new member matches for your search. We have set up one Saved Search for you already, which looks for members in your age range, from your area. You can set up multiples saved searches, up to 5 different ones, to find matches to your specifications.
  • Control your user experience: Profile Preferences allows you to control various options dealing with your profile, how others interact with you, and more.
  • Read relationship advice: We have some excellent relationship articles specifically for Christian singles. These will help you in your journey of finding your soul mate.
  • Be safe: Please read our safety page for tips on how to protect yourself when meeting new people online. Our safety page has advice applicable to both men and women.

We hope these tips have been of use to you and we hope you enjoy your time on Members who are online more often, have a completed profile, interact frequently with others, consistently report making more friends in - including meeting that special someone! Check out our testimonials pages for testimonials we receive from former members who have met their soulmate on