Unrequited Love – What are you to do?

Unrequited Love

Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.


“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?

This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.
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Dare To Dream? How to expand your possibilities!

Dare To Dream

Dare to dream and reach what God’s plan is for your life! How you can find strength to start believing in yourself and see what God’s plans are for your life (even you don’t believe you can do it). When in doubt, look, pursue, and find out how you can reach your potential and bless others with your gifts.


Dare to dream? Do you know how to expand your possibilities?

Many years ago I was sitting in the office of my Pastor discussing a variety of topics relating to our church. I was the lay leader for this year as well as the owner of an independent insurance agency. The conversation turned to what was I thinking about for my future. At the age of 35 years old my life had already been a great personal success and I was not giving much thought to the future.
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Christian Dating Advice: Who do you go to for advice?

Christian Dating Advice

When singles are looking for someone to help, they’ll look for Christian dating advice, or search for tips on how to handle difficult situations, or the best way to deal with a potential relationship. Dr. Jim presents below some dating advice for Christian singles on how to handle these situations. Who is the best person for you to look for when you need help?


Who do you go to for Christian Dating Advice?

Life often presents challenges that are beyond our experience. When you find these occasions confronting you – where do you turn for advice? This may seem like a strange article for one who gives advice to write. I suggest that it is actually one of the more important articles that I could possibly present. Everyone wants to share advice, but is it the advice that is best for you?
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When Christian singles make wrong choices.

Choices

Choices are made all the time but when it comes to relationships, Christian singles have to be careful about dating choices. One simple choice can change your entire life (for good or ill).  That’s why it’s so important to be careful when dealing with such life-changing choices. Don’t make the wrong choice!


Wrong Choices.

Choices are made moment-by-moment in our lives. Some are very minor or perhaps insignificant, while others set things in motion for tremendous good or harm. Did you ever make a choice you wish you could take back? I can hear a loud positive response to that question!
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Share: When and what to share in a new relationship.

When and What to Share

Singles can get confused and not sure when and what should be shared with a potential mate they have just met.  What is the best to share about your previous relationships, when and where is the best way to open up when starting a new relationship?  Christians singles can get caught up with wondering if to be open in a first meeting is a good and Christian way to deal with new relationships. Dr. Jim explains what should be said  (and when).


When and what is appropriate information to share when meeting someone?

The interaction between single adults when they are considering a potential relationship is a critical time. Each one desires to be on their best behavior and make their best presentation. It is also a time when each is hopeful that they are being given an accurate picture and can make a proper assessment. Is this the time to share everything about each other? What information should be shared?

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Personality Test: Compatibility tests for couples.

Personality Test
A personality test is a great way for couples who are thinking about marriage to ensure that they are objectively perceiving and communicating in all major areas of their relationship.  When searching for a better and more accurate information about your other half, having a personality test is a great way to find out the “success rate” for your future marriage. Dr. Jim explains why premarital counseling should be taken with such personality tests.


Is there a personality test or something similar that couples can take to ensure they are compatible?

An email was received this week stating that he understood that opposites are supposed to attract, but how does one know if they are too opposite? This is a great question. Some differences are healthy in a relationship, but too much, especially in significant areas, can be disastrous. How does one receive an accurate and objective feedback in the major areas of a relationship?

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Internet safety for single parents while using dating websites.

Internet Safety

As a single parent, child safety is the highest priority that you should have when dating someone you’ve met online. Dr. Jim explains what a single parent should do when first meeting singles online and what can be done to protect children from potential child molesters. Get great tips about Internet Safety for single parents.


Internet Safety: How can I be sure that a man I meet online is not a child molester?

The safety of children is a high priority for every parent. I wish that I could report that every contact with someone via an online Christian service is with a confirmed mature Christian without any concerns for safety. Unfortunately, the risk is even greater in my opinion for you to meet someone who is not who they present themselves to be if you are using the Internet. You should be concerned about your personal safety as well as the safety of your children.

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Dating After Divorce Guidance

Dating After Divorce
Dating after divorce. What does the Bible tell us about divorce? Should you date after a divorce? Dr. Jim explains God’s desires for us and what should we do when we start thinking about dating after being through a divorce.  Who is allowed and who isn’t allowed to get a divorce according to the Bible?


Dating After Divorce: If I did not cause the divorce, can I date and marry again without being sinful?

Divorce creates many victims. It has become a terrible black eye on our society as divorce sweeps across the land like a forest fire. Almost every day this time of year we turn on our television sets to find another forest fire raging out of control. While I suggest that the damage is even greater in a divorce, it is not as ‘apparent’ or visible to us without taking a second look.

To be able to provide an answer to this question, I would like to begin with the foundation that the Bible provides to us. Matthew 5 and 1Corinthians 7 are the main passages that relate to divorce. The Matthew verses share that there is no grounds for divorce other than if the other spouse is unfaithful in the marriage. If this does occur, the other spouse has the ‘option’ to initiate a divorce.

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You’ve got – family!

Family

Family is a huge part of someone’s life and some singles can feel lonely when they realize that being single cannot complete them like a family would. However, Dr. Jim shows how every single who feel lonely at times can be assured that they are part of a Heavenly Family. God the Father is with us even in our most dark (or lonely) moments.


Belong to a Family.

Each of us was created to belong. It is something that God placed into our very being and it is a powerful force. I can recall driving around after my divorce and seeing a husband and wife together, or perhaps with children, and breaking down and bawling like a baby because I was not in a family. This reaction went on for several years and it was something that I had to process to find wholeness again.

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Interpersonal Skills – do you have a love statement? Part III

Interpersonal Skills

Interpersonal skills are very important when we are dealing with people we’re trying to impress, such a as prospective match. Even just listening to someone can impact how that person sees and relates to us. It’s also important to have a buddy support group to help with your people skills.


Do you have a love statement? Part III

In previous articles (Do you have a love statement? – Part I and Non-verbal communication – Part II), we have discussed how we make statements to others through both verbal and non-verbal communication. It was also pointed out that 65% of our communication is non-verbal, the part that has the biggest impact.

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