Virginity and Marriage

Virginity

What does God say about virginity, marriage, and consequences from our decisions? Let’s understand what God wants us to apply to our lives with Biblical principles.

Dear Jim: Should I be seeking a virgin for marriage?

This question, or one similar to it, often arises in emails received from singles. Virginity is something that God instructs us to bring into the marriage. How does one relate to those who are no longer virgins? Can one restore their virginity? How does virginity relate to second marriages? Allow me to share some thoughts on this area.

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God says no to sex outside of marriage.

Sex outside of marriage

Dr. Jim explains why is so hard these days to think clearly about a relationship when sex outside of marriage is at play.  Christian singles need to understand the power a sexual relationship has on us and how they can avoid falling into temptation.  This article explains why all singles, Christian or not, should avoid sex outside of marriage if they want their relationship to be truly fulfilling and God-honoring.

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10 Pieces of Marriage Advice

Marriage Advice

Today’s blog post was written by one of our ChristianCafe.com members.

Below is a list of 10 pieces of marriage advice for singles who are seeking their special someone and desire some good tips about making their future union successful.    

Marriage Advice for singles.

Finding a soulmate can be easier than keeping a relationship healthy. The same is true when we talk about matrimony.  In today’s world, we see the devastation of divorce on the lives of couples and especially their children (if they have them).  We understand that we all fall short of the glory of God, but families can be destroyed when two people go into a relationship without the knowledge of how to serve and truly love their spouse as Christ loves the Church.  

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What Every Christian Couple Should Talk Before Saying “I Do”

The great word: I do
“I do”

Today’s article is brought to you by a guest writer, Kevin Gardner.

4 Conversations Every Christian Couple Should Have Before Saying “I Do”

God never created men and women to be alone. From birth, humans long for connection and intimacy with others, seeking a life filled with love, compassion, and security. This can grow complicated when courting, and eventually dating the person you wish to wed. As you know, finding the one or your soulmate is a nuanced idea that has been spoon fed to young romantics by secular culture. Real, biblical relationships require communication and compromise with the person you have chosen.

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Advice For Single Christian Women: What’s wrong with men?

What's Wrong With Men
What’s wrong with men? Dr. Jim explains how to avoid future hurtful feelings when meeting Christian men online. Beware of false expectations at the beginning of an online relationship. We should never let our guard down and keep safety as our first priority when connecting with other singles via a dating website.


What’s wrong with Christian men?

You might ask: What’s wrong with men?  This question, or one similar to it, has been asked often in emails to me. Wow – does it open up a big subject. I have not received one from Christian men asking what is wrong with Christian women – but suspect I will soon.

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How do I choose a good Christian counseling professional?

Christian Counseling

Dr. Jim gives great advice on how to find a good Christian counseling professional who can help you deal with relationship issues, and other things that matter in your life. He explains how important is to get help, but more than that, it’s about finding a good counselor who can help you deal with and get through your struggles.


A Christian Counseling Professional: how to find one.

Allow me a premise as I begin to write this article. The premise is that each of us has a spirit and a soul. Our spirits relate to God and our souls relate to one another. Have you ever heard the term ‘soul mate’?

In the spiritual world, we find great benefit in seeking out those of more Christian maturity or training to give us insights. God has gifted many teachers of His word who make the scriptures come alive for us and give us deeper understanding. The insights gained allow us to walk in more freedom as well as in more awareness of who we are.

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Feeling guilty. How to deal with guilt?

Feeling Guilty

When you feel guilty, what as a Christian should you do to overcome it?  Dr. Jim explains how a person can have the Holy Spirit help him/her to deal with their guilt and what the Bible teaches about guilt


Feeling guilty. How to deal with guilt?

Life is filled with choices and too often we do not make the best ones. There are times when we have purposely made choices that later proved to be very bad ones (and painful). As the decision plays itself out, we begin to realize that this choice was very sinful and damaging to us and to others.

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True Love – What is true love?

True Love

ChristianCafe.com guest writer K.L. Freebyrd writes about the real meaning of true love. This is about what some people dream about and what reality brings us. And, how building a solid relationship in Christ can make our relationships stronger with each other.


What is true love?

A question millions of us ask ourselves at some point in our lives, whether seeking a mate in the dating scene, or just after a breakup. It is a question that Christians and non Christians have struggled with throughout the ages. It’s controversial and often subjective.

Some people dream of a knight in shining armor saying all the right things at all the right times, without a single complaint, whisking us away off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Others may think it means having an undeniable, unfading connection with a soul mate who never argues and accepts us exactly how we are without judgment or strife. Sounds great, doesn’t it? There are just a few small flaws with that perception.

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Unrequited Love – What are you to do?

Unrequited Love

Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.


“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?

This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.

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