What’s wrong with men? Dr. Jim explains how to avoid future hurtful feelings when meeting Christian men online. Beware of false expectations at the beginning of an online relationship. We should never let our guard down and keep safety as our first priority when connecting with other singles via a dating website.
What’s wrong with Christian men?
You might ask: What’s wrong with men? This question, or one similar to it, has been asked often in emails to me. Wow – does it open up a big subject. I have not received one from Christian men asking what is wrong with Christian women – but suspect I will soon.
Dr. Jim gives great advice on how to find a good Christian counseling professional who can help you deal with relationship issues, and other things that matter in your life. He explains how important is to get help, but more than that, it’s about finding a good counselor who can help you deal with and get through your struggles.
A Christian Counseling Professional: how to find one.
Allow me a premise as I begin to write this article. The premise is that each of us has a spirit and a soul. Our spirits relate to God and our souls relate to one another. Have you ever heard the term ‘soul mate’?
In the spiritual world, we find great benefit in seeking out those of more Christian maturity or training to give us insights. God has gifted many teachers of His word who make the scriptures come alive for us and give us deeper understanding. The insights gained allow us to walk in more freedom as well as in more awareness of who we are.
When you feel guilty, what as a Christian should you do to overcome it? Dr. Jim explains how a person can have the Holy Spirit help him/her to deal with their guilt and what the Bible teaches about guilt
Feeling guilty. How to deal with guilt?
Life is filled with choices and too often we do not make the best ones. There are times when we have purposely made choices that later proved to be very bad ones (and painful). As the decision plays itself out, we begin to realize that this choice was very sinful and damaging to us and to others.
ChristianCafe.com guest writer K.L. Freebyrd writes about the real meaning of true love. This is about what some people dream about and what reality brings us. And, how building a solid relationship in Christ can make our relationships stronger with each other.
What is true love?
A question millions of us ask ourselves at some point in our lives, whether seeking a mate in the dating scene, or just after a breakup. It is a question that Christians and non Christians have struggled with throughout the ages. It’s controversial and often subjective.
Some people dream of a knight in shining armor saying all the right things at all the right times, without a single complaint, whisking us away off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Others may think it means having an undeniable, unfading connection with a soul mate who never argues and accepts us exactly how we are without judgment or strife. Sounds great, doesn’t it? There are just a few small flaws with that perception.
Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.
“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?
This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.
Dare to dream and reach what God’s plan is for your life! How you can find strength to start believing in yourself and see what God’s plans are for your life (even you don’t believe you can do it). When in doubt, look, pursue, and find out how you can reach your potential and bless others with your gifts.
Dare to dream? Do you know how to expand your possibilities?
Many years ago I was sitting in the office of my Pastor discussing a variety of topics relating to our church. I was the lay leader for this year as well as the owner of an independent insurance agency. The conversation turned to what was I thinking about for my future. At the age of 35 years old my life had already been a great personal success and I was not giving much thought to the future.
When singles are looking for someone to help, they’ll look for Christian dating advice, or search for tips on how to handle difficult situations, or the best way to deal with a potential relationship. Dr. Jim presents below some dating advice for Christian singles on how to handle these situations. Who is the best person for you to look for when you need help?
Who do you go to for Christian Dating Advice?
Life often presents challenges that are beyond our experience. When you find these occasions confronting you – where do you turn for advice? This may seem like a strange article for one who gives advice to write. I suggest that it is actually one of the more important articles that I could possibly present. Everyone wants to share advice, but is it the advice that is best for you?
Choices are made all the time but when it comes to relationships, Christian singles have to be careful about dating choices. One simple choice can change your entire life (for good or ill). That’s why it’s so important to be careful when dealing with such life-changing choices. Don’t make the wrong choice!
Choices are made moment-by-moment in our lives. Some are very minor or perhaps insignificant, while others set things in motion for tremendous good or harm. Did you ever make a choice you wish you could take back? I can hear a loud positive response to that question!
Singles can get confused and not sure when and what should be shared with a potential mate they have just met. What is the best to share about your previous relationships, when and where is the best way to open up when starting a new relationship? Christians singles can get caught up with wondering if to be open in a first meeting is a good and Christian way to deal with new relationships. Dr. Jim explains what should be said (and when).
When and what is appropriate information to share when meeting someone?
The interaction between single adults when they are considering a potential relationship is a critical time. Each one desires to be on their best behavior and make their best presentation. It is also a time when each is hopeful that they are being given an accurate picture and can make a proper assessment. Is this the time to share everything about each other? What information should be shared?
A personality test is a great way for couples who are thinking about marriage to ensure that they are objectively perceiving and communicating in all major areas of their relationship. When searching for a better and more accurate information about your other half, having a personality test is a great way to find out the “success rate” for your future marriage. Dr. Jim explains why premarital counseling should be taken with such personality tests.
Is there a personality test or something similar that couples can take to ensure they are compatible?
An email was received this week stating that he understood that opposites are supposed to attract, but how does one know if they are too opposite? This is a great question. Some differences are healthy in a relationship, but too much, especially in significant areas, can be disastrous. How does one receive an accurate and objective feedback in the major areas of a relationship?