No sex – How to share you don’t want to have sex after marriage?

No Sex

A few single adults (for various reasons) see their future marriage as having no sex in the relationship. They’re not sure when they should let the other person know about this when dating.  Dr. Jim gives some useful insights on how to go about letting the other person know your desire is to have no sexual relations after you’re married.


No Sex After Marriage

No sex after marriage – When should I share with another person that I do not want to have sex after marriage?

For a variety of reasons, there are some adults who do not want to have a sexual relationship after marriage. A person of this persuasion realizes that most of the people of the opposite gender that they meet will want to have this in their future relationship. The concern is that in sharing the no sex desire will hinder the possibility of the relationship.
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Still married and flirting on Christian dating sites

Married And Flirting

When the divorce is not final and the person is still legally married but is using dating sites online: what should you do if you find yourself in a situation like this? Who gets hurt in the process when you find yourself still married and flirting online?


Married And Flirting

What is your opinion on those who are still married and flirting using Christian dating sites?

Perhaps one would expect me to come out ranting and raving about this. Actually my heart is broken as I consider this question. Over and over again I have learned that many who are still married are choosing to place an ad on a dating site and interact and flirting with others as if they were single.

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Online Dating for Christians – Does God Approve of Online Dating?

Online Dating
Online Dating is a great way to meet and start relationship with other Christian singles. But is online dating ok with God? Is online dating good for Christian singles who are looking for a Christian mate, including to start a family? Dr. Jim shows how the Internet can be a great tool (or a bad one) for those looking to meet true love online.


Does the Bible approve of online dating?

Does God approve of one using online dating to try to find a mate? Does He want us to take the initiative in finding someone?

The modern world is a very interesting one to say the least. Several years ago we thought that technology would make our lives easier and we would have more spare time to kick back and enjoy life. It seems to me that with each ‘enhancement’ that technology has brought to our lives, it has brought a new set of circumstances and challenges.
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What is love when seeking a soulmate?

What is Love

What is love really like when you are seeking a soulmate? Do Christian singles know where their focus should be and what to look for in a person? What makes a great relationship or a disastrous one? Below are some great points to consider when searching for love online.

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Long distance relationship: Expectations vs reality.

Long distance relationship: Reality vs Expectation

Long distance relationships have theirs ups and downs and we shouldn’t allow our fantasies to blur reality when using online dating.


What advice would you have about dating online and long distance relationships?

The development of any relationship is challenging – but long distance does add some unique aspects to consideration. Although I am sure not all-inclusive, here are some thoughts that I believe one should consider as they entertain long distance relationships.
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Relationship Guide: Tips to start a successful relationship when dating online.

Relationship guide to dating online

Dr. Jim provides advice on the process of having a healthy relationship in the online dating scene and steps to take (and not take) to find your perfect match.


Dear Jim: Are there general guidelines for screening people that perhaps I can use in the future to avoid the bad experience I had?

You are one of many who have written to me with a similar question. Yes, I do believe that some guidelines SHOULD be created (called boundaries) as you approach any relationship – especially over the Internet.

Guide to start a successful relationship Online

  • The first one is NOT to develop any undue expectations PRIOR to meeting one in person. Approaching the subject of marriage before even meeting should be a sign that “expectations” are getting ahead of the process. I could not state this too strongly. Would also suggest that approaching the subject of marriage even after meeting for the first period of time should not be done. The single biggest cause of heartache in finding relationships is unrealistic expectations.

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Online Dating Red Flags

Online Dating Red Flags

What red flags should you be aware of when using an online dating site? We’ve put together some tips to help keep you safe.

There are a two main areas when you think of profiles/”members” to avoid in online dating:

  • “Fake” profiles that try to build a rapport with you and then hit you up for money with the help of a made up tale.
  • Legitimate members who you simply shouldn’t spend your time getting to know.

Let’s dig in.
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Is Online Dating Biblical?

Online Dating Biblical

Is Online Dating Biblical?  In this blog post we have Pastor John Piper replies to the topic with great knowledge.  For those singles who are in doubt if they should use the internet as a way to meet their other half.

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Are You Wasting Your Time?

How we use our time can significantly contribute to the quality of our lives. In this article, Dr. Jim discusses three areas where we can improve how our time is spent: Online, Worrying, Dating.


How do you spend your time? Time is a very valuable commodity and one that cannot be recaptured. You have choices of how you will spend your time. As you wake up in the morning, what is your first thought? Okay, after having a cup of coffee. (more…)

Is Love Enough?

Is love enough? What criteria do you use in seeking a lasting relationship? Is a strong emotional bond sufficient to see you through the years? Let’s explore these important issues further with Pastor Jim


Are Your Standards Set Too High?

Life presents us with many twists and turns. One sets out to find a good relationship only to find someone show up who does not meet all the desired qualities. Have you set your criteria too high, or is it okay to have high standards? (more…)

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