Online Dating Red Flags

Online Dating Red Flags

What red flags should you be aware of when using an online dating site? We’ve put together some tips to help keep you safe.

There are a two main areas when you think of profiles/”members” to avoid in online dating:

  • “Fake” profiles that try to build a rapport with you and then hit you up for money with the help of a made up tale.
  • Legitimate members who you simply shouldn’t spend your time getting to know.

Let’s dig in.

Red flags for fake profiles

For the first group, every online dating service has a problem with those who sign up with multiple fake accounts in hopes of simply extracting money from you. Many sites, including, have tools in place to weed out these profiles as quickly as possible, but you may still encounter some. They usually try to get you to communicate off the site ASAP so that they can engage with you prior to the dating site removing their profile.

What smells of an internet scammer? These items should make you suspicious:

  • No photos (if you’re trying online dating and don’t have a photo posted, online dating is likely not for you);
  • Photos that are “too high quality” – i.e. using stock photos found online;
  • Photos that are “too good to be true” – If you’re an average looking man and the most gorgeous woman writes to you online, there’s a good chance it’s a fake profile.;
  • No short answer questions filled out;
  • All short answer questions are responded to with “tell you later” or “ask later when we chat”;
  • Answer to one short answer question contains a write up of everything about them, none of which answers the specific question OR is far more than the question asked for (these would be a typical copy-paste answers they use everywhere – usually stolen from other profiles);
  • Poor grammar and spelling;
  • Use of non-standard english phrases, including calling you “baby”/”dear” or saying “am [name]”;
  • Username is “____cares” or similar, hoping to provide a fake assurance that they are genuine.
  • Claims to work overseas, usually as an oil worker or in the military;
  • Multiple choice answers don’t match photos;
  • Short answers with lack of geographical knowledge — they’re from a certain city but their responses don’t mesh with that;
  • Contacting you despite major age differences;
  • Professing their love for you right away;
  • When communicating they rush to get you off the site: providing email, IM, phone number, etc, or asking you for yours. They may use the excuse that their membership is about to expire;
  • Asks for money or asks you to cash money orders.

Tip: If you attempt to “google” someone to see if they’re authentic, you may simply find a site where the scammer took the photo and details from. Basically, this isn’t enough to ensure this person is who they say they are. Bottom line: never send money!

Red flags for profiles to skip

As mentioned, the second “red flag” group consists of those who are “real” but you really need not spend your time with them as they’re not ready or able to have a proper relationship.

Red flag signals include:

  • Profiles with their email address ‘in code’ – they are cheap and dishonest;
  • Members whose behavior fluctuates from one day to the next;
  • Members who rant about past relationships – they’re likely not ready for another one;
  • Members who ask to meet in a non-public place — Always meet in a public place and even let your friends know where you’ll be, to be extra safe;
  • Members who are elusive when you ask questions — they are likely hiding something. They don’t have to reveal everything about themselves right away (and we recommend they do not) but if they’re constantly not providing answers to general ‘get to know you’ questions, they may be hiding something.

Tip: One way to get to know someone better than just their profile is to see how they interact with others in Forums and Chat Rooms on the site. That will likely tell you quite a bit about how the person will conduct themselves in a relationship. Are they constantly arguing with others on the Forums? Is that the type of person you want to be with?

What other red flags would you add to this list? Please let us know in the comments below!

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11 comments on “Online Dating Red FlagsAdd yours →

  1. I agree with communicating online for awhile with someone you meet through a dating site. I did some online chatting with a local man, and decided that I did not want to meet him in person because of the sarcasm he expressed in his communication with me.

    Another thing I have experienced as a red flag is that a number of local men have mentioned in their first conversation with me that they want to meet me in person right away, and most of them do not have essay questions completed and picture(s) posted in the profile. I do not make plans to meet them because I do not feel comfortable going out to meet someone I barely know, even in a public location.

  2. I especially agree with the photo. If they do not have a recent photo or they are reluctant to put one up be cautious. I found many scammers on that site who refuse to video chat the common excuses I don’t have a cam. As a guy we especially have to be careful because we spend a lot of time money and emotion trying to get to know a woman. When she ends up being a scammer it’s a heavier let down for some men.but there’s nothing wrong with asking for a video chat at the very start.

  3. I’m new at this and have already come across a lot of the comments listed here. Another thing is the intimacy thing, i.e. sexual innuendos too quickly, sexual comments on picture, and sexual questions. I’ve blocked a few and turned in one person so far. Most of us are healthy, “active” beings, but I find this behavior disgusting..

  4. Just pursue to video call – push to it. And all problems solved. You can catch scammers if they avoid, if they using fake number if there is no “ringing” signal everything even if person is exact as in photos. I’m guy and I always not wasting time with chichatting cause it’s synthetic and fake I ask to talk and I want to see her in video

  5. Pictures can be faked profile can be faked – everything can be lie, you can even see if person is educated really just from way how he speaks from what family he is and there is nothing to be afraid if you didn’t lied yourself. You can even see if she’s fat or slim

    1. We aren’t just for a specific area or state or even country. We server all, you just need to be a Christian and single. Have a wonderful day!

  6. i have heard of a man in Winnipeg posing as a ‘ski’ expert – who keeps taking out a list of women with obesity weight issues- and each time makes them pay ( a host of reasons or forgot his wallet/bank card/
    /lost his job….for his dinners and lunches, and even in one incident – proposes to her- all the while she is paying for absolutely everything!! and she still does not know his real address. ( a relative of mine) .
    when I keep hearing this story over and over again by different women., it makes me feel so much spiritual injustice is happening , by a local scammer- he ends the relationship unexpectedly, they never know him., and even in 2 cases- he ends it with having a friend call and say he was killed in a ski accident on a trip, in some other location..
    I hope others have heard of this fella and can finally end this escapade. so very sad.

  7. I agree to all opinions here except with a particular one coming from the publisher on the topic of “Poor grammar and spellings”

    He or she may be right same time wrong because not everybody could write “good English nor speak good grammar. Some individuals here in the States can’t “write” good English yet they speak English. Have you putting into consideration other people in different countries and continents whose mother tongue is NOT English but tries to be in school so he/she could at least express him/her self in the international language called English grammar. Are all those people scammers too ? I only need to know because we need to be fare as much as making this online platform safer for all
    God bless!

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