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Should a Christian Woman Let a Man Know She’s Interested?

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Dr. Jim tackles the question of whether a Christian woman should let a man know that she is interested in him.

DEAR JIM: SHOULD A WOMAN LET A MAN KNOW SHE IS INTERESTED?

This is not a Biblical question, but allow me to share some thoughts.

Cultures dictate how men and women relate to one another. Social interactions in our societies have changed in recent years and the distinction between men and women has become confused.

A recent email asked the question regarding is it okay to show an interest in a man. Some men would love it, others be taken back by it. Confusing times for all!

Single for the Holidays?: How to Cope

Dr. Jim discusses being single for the Christmas holidays, and how to cope if in that situation.

Christmas and the holidays should be times of great joy – right? The reality is that many singles wrestle with a LOT of emotions around the holidays seasons.

First Date Tips: Managing Expectations and Staying Safe

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DEAR JIM: ARE THERE GENERAL GUIDELINES FOR SCREENING PEOPLE THAT PERHAPS I CAN USE IN THE FUTURE TO AVOID THE BAD EXPERIENCE I HAD?

You are one of many who have written to me with a similar question. Yes, I do believe that some guidelines SHOULD be created (called boundaries) as you approach any relationship – especially over the Internet.

How to Start Dating Again: Tips for Christian Women

Dr. Jim provides some pointers on how to start dating again – after a break up. This post is written for women, but can be reversed to apply for men.

DEAR JIM: HOW DO I START DATING AGAIN?

Times have changed, but values have not! I am afraid that you will find more men with less good manners and more into themselves.

Overcoming the Fear of Being Single Forever.

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ARE YOU ALLOWING FEAR TO DOMINATE YOUR LIFE?

A child enters into this world without any fears. Before they are around this earth very long something will occur that will allow fear to enter into their life. Too often one grows up and is filled with a variety of fears.

What is fear?

What is fear? I have developed a definition that applies to most fears that adults experience.

‘Fear is the emotion developed when we ‘feel’ we are about to lose something we value.’

Some things that can be valued are our lives, our possessions, our positions, and our relationships. The greater we hold onto these things (or value them) the greater our fear can become.

HOWEVER, it is not really the loss of ‘things’ or ‘positions’ that is the force behind our fear. Allow me to develop this thought as you consider how this applies to your life.

Can Someone Change Their Behavior, In Order To Make a Relationship Work?

can someone change? In today’s advice column, Dr. Jim advises on whether to stay in a relationship with someone who needs to change in order for the relationship to work.

WHEN IS EXPECTING A PERSON TO CHANGE NOT GOOD?

People can change for the positive

A friend of mine (who is a counsellor) and I were having a conversation recently. He stated that he has never seen a modification in a person unless there was a significant crisis that provided the motivation to change. While I concurred with the fact that this is usually the way it happens, I shared that I was also pleased that people can change for the positive if and when their world of reference is changed. My world expanded when a mentor opened my thinking that I could do more than what I had experienced in the past.

Wait on God for a Spouse?… or Actively Date?

Wait on God for a spouse? Dr. Jim advises on whether Christians should pursue finding a spouse, or simply wait on God to provide a husband or wife.

Dear Jim: SHOULD I NOT DATE AND SIT BACK AND WAIT FOR GOD TO BRING MY MATE TO ME?

There are some Christian leaders that counsel others to wait on God to bring their mate to them. Their counsel is to not date and just wait on God. I do not agree with this approach as a general principal.

Dating With Children After Divorce: Advice for single parents

Dating with Children Dr. Jim shares his dating advice for those who are divorced with children.

Dear Jim: DO YOU HAVE ANY DATING ADVICE FOR THOSE WHO HAVE CHILDREN?

Children’s emotions also go through emotional turbulence during and after a divorce. When the parent(s) begin to date, this can significantly cause a lot of stress and pain in the family. I am the child of a divorce as well as have counselled many with children. Here are some considerations as relates to the children of a divorce:

Dating and Conflicts Resolution – Dating Tips.

conflicts resolution Dr. Jim provides advice on dealing with disagreements when in a relationship.

» If a disagreement surfaces in the initial stages of dating, what should I do?

Most singles are very self-conscious as they relate to others. When someone begins to interact with them and there are a lot of positives, it is disconcerting when suddenly a disagreement surfaces. What does this mean? Is it an indicator that this is not going to be a relationship and that they should ‘move on’?

How To Break Up With Someone… and How to Survive a Breakup

How do I break up with someone?

In today’s dating advice post, Dr. Jim writes provides his thoughts on Breaking Up 101.