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Are Opposites Always Attractive?

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Everyone’s heard ‘Opposites Attract,’ but how true is it? More importantly, how does this notion figure within a Godly context of dating? In this article, Pastor Jim explores this concept in greater detail with insight for Christian singles.

Opposites Attract

How long has this saying been around? Obviously it has been an indicator of human behavior for longer than you and I have been around. I would like to share one situation where this saying stands true, and another where it is an element of extreme danger.

Making Room for Joy in Times of Trial

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How Do You Embrace the Joy of the Lord? Read the thoughts on this topic from Pastor Jim:

One of the truths of living is that we often realize the most growth and make healthy changes through times of trial or challenge. Coaches know this principle and create ‘dis-ease’ to disorganize the norm so that it can be replaced with a new habit or practice.

God is the creator of life and the principles to live life successfully. He allows us to experience ‘dis-ease’ in hopes that it will build awareness that we need to make some changes.

Filling The Void Of Singleness

void of singleness

Pastor Jim provides advice for Christian singles about allowing God to fill the voids in our life.

Most of life is about filling one form of void or another. It is the void, or perception of a void, that becomes a driving force in our lives. God created us with a void intentionally. If he had made us perfect we would be robots and not have any choices.

The primary void that God created in us is the need for a relationship. His primary intention in doing so was to create the need to relate to him.

However, he intentionally created this need so that we would need and want to create with others too. This fact can be quickly illustrated by referring to Adam and Eve. Was it not the “void” in her life that allowed Satan to entice her to sin?

How Can You Tell If You Are In Love?

What is Love? What is Not?

Internet dating is in desperate need of someone reminding members to pay attention to what is love, and what is not when you are in love.

The most common misconception is that love is feelings and a heightened excitement caused through the presence of another. While it could be infatuation, lust, or self-indulgence, the experience or condition that many singles refer to as love is exactly the opposite of love.

When Do Good Guys Finish First?

When do good guys finish first? Read the thoughts on this topic from Pastor Jim:

Do you ever feel like you are the only one trying your best to do things right, but it does not seem to get you where you want to be? You honor others, read all you can about building good relationships, depend upon God, but your goal is not being met. When do good guys finish first?

Long Distance Dating: Who Should Relocate?

Dr. Jim provides advice surrounding the decision to relocate to be closer to someone you met online.

Date Conversation Tip: The 80-20 Rule

Pastor Jim provides advice for singles regarding how to conduct yourself when conversing with a potential match, whether writing via an online dating service, or when meeting in person.

First Date and No Attraction: Etiquette

Pastor Jim provides advice for Christian singles regarding how to react upon realizing you are not attracted to your date.

» Dear Jim: I finally met someone in person and am not attracted. When should I tell them?

Relating to others develops many scenarios. The one that most often occurs when using the Internet for dating is that there often develops a ‘connection’ prior to actually meeting face-to-face. This is accomplished by many emails exchanged and perhaps phone calls where there appears to be a rapport and mutual draw.

Chemistry and Christian Dating

Pastor Jim provides advice for Christian singles about the place of chemistry in relationships.

Is attraction an important ingredient in dating?

Attraction is an important ingredient in dating. Many are guided by whether or not they ‘feel’ an attraction toward a person of the opposite gender. The physical attraction toward another person is often capsulated under the term ‘chemistry.’ I suggest that this is one of the most misunderstood areas connected with potential relationships.

Christian Divorce: How Does God Relate to Divorce?

Pastor Jim provides the below advice for divorced Christians, speaking as a divorced Christian himself.