Filling The Void Of Singleness

void of singleness

Pastor Jim provides advice for Christian singles about allowing God to fill the voids in our life.


Most of life is about filling one form of void or another. It is the void, or perception of a void, that becomes a driving force in our lives. God created us with a void intentionally. If he had made us perfect we would be robots and not have any choices.

The primary void that God created in us is the need for a relationship. His primary intention in doing so was to create the need to relate to him.

However, he intentionally created this need so that we would need and want to create with others too. This fact can be quickly illustrated by referring to Adam and Eve. Was it not the “void” in her life that allowed Satan to entice her to sin?

How Can You Tell If You Are In Love?

Is it love?

What is Love? What is Not?

Internet dating is in desperate need of someone reminding members to pay attention to what is love, and what is not when you are in love.

The most common misconception is that love is feelings and a heightened excitement caused through the presence of another. While it could be infatuation, lust, or self-indulgence, the experience or condition that many singles refer to as love is exactly the opposite of love.

When Do Good Guys Finish First?

When do good guys finish first? Read the thoughts on this topic from Pastor Jim:


Do you ever feel like you are the only one trying your best to do things right, but it does not seem to get you where you want to be? You honor others, read all you can about building good relationships, depend upon God, but your goal is not being met. When do good guys finish first?

How Long To Wait to Meet Offline?


You’ve emailed back and forth via your favorite online dating site and possibly even communicated via IM, SMS, or Skype. So, when do you actually meet in person? How long to wait to meet offline? There’s definitely something different about meeting face to face in comparison to just communicating via text. There are mannerisms and many (many) other things that make meeting “offline” much different than “online”.

Reply to Email Even If Not Interested?

Pastor Jim advises whether to reply or not to reply when someone writes to you on an online dating site, and you don’t share their interest:

“My question is this…I have met people that seem to like me but the feeling isn’t mutual….we haven’t met in person or anything. Should I send an e-mail telling them that I don’t want to go further or should I just ignore them completely until they get the hint, sort of like what was done to me? I don’t know really how to react to this situation because the secular websites say to ignore them but I’m not sure if that’s the Christian thing to do. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.”