ChristianCafe.com guest writer K.L. Freebyrd writes about the real meaning of true love. This is about what some people dream about and what reality brings us. And, how building a solid relationship in Christ can make our relationships stronger with each other.
What is true love?
A question millions of us ask ourselves at some point in our lives, whether seeking a mate in the dating scene, or just after a breakup. It is a question that Christians and non Christians have struggled with throughout the ages. It’s controversial and often subjective.
Some people dream of a knight in shining armor saying all the right things at all the right times, without a single complaint, whisking us away off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Others may think it means having an undeniable, unfading connection with a soul mate who never argues and accepts us exactly how we are without judgment or strife. Sounds great, doesn’t it? There are just a few small flaws with that perception.
Dr. Jim explains how to spot early signs of a violent partner and how to guard yourself from falling into the trap of having a violent spouse and a broken marriage later on.
Domestic violence – What early signs should I look for to tell if a man might have the tendency to abuse women?
This is a great question and one that many women should be asking. I am not a trained counsellor and not able to provide the ‘clinical’ answer. However, I do have experience and insights as a Pastor relating to many single adults.
Dr. Wyatt talks about the dynamics of a blended family. Coming from a blended family himself, who better to talk about the topic? He tells us first-hand what parents and children should expect when living in this kind of family environment and how the members of the family can follow some easy steps to have a successful blended family!
With the divorce rate around 50%, blended families are becoming more the norm than the exception. Some of us may remember the old TV series The Brady Bunch where a beautiful blended family of 8 got along fabulously and every obstacle had a happy ending. If only real life were so simple. Most blended families are wrought with difficulty on a variety of fronts.
Some Christian singles find their expectations of love shredded by the fact that the other person doesn’t feel the same way. What to do when love is not returned, but you feel that God has put this person in your life for a reason? Dr. Jim explains what do to when you face a unrequited love.
“Unrequited Love”, when someone whom I think God has sent to be my mate doesn’t agree (or even know I exist): what am I to do?
This statement of unrequited love or one similar to it is often received in an email to me. Sometimes the person will describe how in a dream or vision God described their future mate to them. The person that they met fits this description perfectly. However, the other person isn’t attracted to them or maybe doesn’t that they exist! The added confusion comes in the fact that this single adult is so sure that this is the one that God destined for them and cannot understand why the other person does not see this, too.
A few single adults (for various reasons) see their future marriage as having no sex in the relationship. They’re not sure when they should let the other person know about this when dating. Dr. Jim gives some useful insights on how to go about letting the other person know your desire is to have no sexual relations after you’re married.
No Sex After Marriage
No sex after marriage – When should I share with another person that I do not want to have sex after marriage?
For a variety of reasons, there are some adults who do not want to have a sexual relationship after marriage. A person of this persuasion realizes that most of the people of the opposite gender that they meet will want to have this in their future relationship. The concern is that in sharing the no sex desire will hinder the possibility of the relationship.
What happens when God’s grace and legalism are at “war”? What does God’s grace and mercy mean for us? Is sin today the same as yesterday? Is it ok for us to walk according to what we want or how we feel? Sins and consequences of sins: these are some topics that Dr. Jim talks about to help Christian singles stay focussed on God’s Word and His love.
Grace or legalism – which is correct?
The subject of emails to me seems to run in patterns. Several emails have been received recently that relate in one way or another to whether we should be guided by those who say God is all grace, or those who propose that God is demanding and legalistic. What is interesting to me is the motivation ‘behind’ why one chooses to either submit to the ‘grace’ or ‘legalism’ theory. It appears that they want to live life by their definition and find a way to justify that action.
“I want to get married”. Many Christian singles have this desire in their hearts, but over time they get discouraged, as they haven’t yet met that special someone. Dr. Jim has some encouraging words to help singles in trusting the Lord with whatever outcome He has for their lives.
If I want to get married (as God placed the desire within me to marry), why has He not provided a mate for me yet?
You pose an interesting question about desire and marriage. As I consider the question, I wonder if the desire to marry is one from God or one developed because of your personal desire. There are a lot of single adults that pose this question to me.
I want to honor your desires and feelings as I ask God to share through me. What comes to my mind is that there are often many desires in our lives that for one reason or another they are not realized. It is a human condition and we shall always be lacking in one way or another on this earth.
When the divorce is not final and the person is still legally married but is using dating sites online: what should you do if you find yourself in a situation like this? Who gets hurt in the process when you find yourself still married and flirting online?
Married And Flirting
What is your opinion on those who are still married and flirting using Christian dating sites?
Perhaps one would expect me to come out ranting and raving about this. Actually my heart is broken as I consider this question. Over and over again I have learned that many who are still married are choosing to place an ad on a dating site and interact and flirting with others as if they were single.
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