Today’s blog post is by guest writer, Katherine Rundell.
Dating can be difficult, particularly for Christian singles who often feel the pressure to find the right mate. However, the only way to avoid repeating dating mistakes is to learn from them and begin to make better choices. Ultimately, this will lead to a healthier and happier relationship in the future. Here are 8 dating mistakes you need to avoid.
Top 8 Dating Mistakes To Avoid
1. Letting The Wrong People Come Into Your Life
One of the most common dating mistakes many Christians make is to let the wrong person enter their lives. Think carefully about what you don’t want in a partner and make sure that you don’t settle for less. Remember that the right person is worth waiting for and will lead to a healthy and respectful relationship.
2. Settling For The Wrong Person
For many Christians, it can be tough to let go of a relationship, even when it has become apparent that a relationship is no longer working.
“Often, Christians will simply remain in a relationship because they are fearful they will never find another suitable mate. However, it’s important to remember that a breakup is also part of God’s plan and only by following his guidance will you succeed in finding the right partner,” says Sandra Condrey, a relationship writer at PhD Writers and Research Paper Writers.
3. Holding On To A Past Relationship
Similarly, if you are still emotionally attached to a past relationship and a previous partner, you will never be able to move on. As a result, you’ll risk missing out on a future relationship and happiness. When a person is no longer present in your life, it’s important for you to let them go in order to move on to another relationship.
4. Failing To Believe You Are Worthy Of A Good Relationship
It’s important to believe that you are worthy of happiness, love and respect. If you don’t believe you are worth being in a good relationship, then the chances are you will not find a happy relationship. Instead, take time to consider what you’re worth and make sure that you seek a mate and relationship which value you.
Avoiding these steps below will help your relationship, too.
5. Letting Other People Influence And Dictate Your Relationship
Whilst friends and family may mean well, their influence can sometimes be harmful to your relationship.
“There are times when other people’s influence and meddling can force you into a relationship you don’t want to be in, or manipulate you into giving up on a relationship you want to fight for. Whilst listening to the advice and guidance of others is useful, don’t allow them to steer your life for you. Instead, look to God for guidance and trust in his plan,” says David Campbell, a relationship writer at Lia Help and EssayRoo.
6. Being Too Desperate For A Relationship
Sometimes being too impatient and desperate for a partner can lead to a poor relationship. In some cases, the eagerness for a relationship can lead you to become blind to another person’s faults and fail to see the warning signs being given to you.
7. Allowing Physical Interaction To Dominate A Relationship
Although Christian singles are well aware that it’s best to wait until marriage before engaging in sex, it can be easy to allow physical interactions and desires to dominate a relationship. Whilst physical affection is important, it’s important to remember that it shouldn’t ever dictate the course of your relationship.
(Check out our past posts about this theme: Sex outside of marriage & Sex before marriage.)
8. Failing To Establish Proper Boundaries
It’s crucial that you establish clear and proper boundaries from the outset of your relationship so that both you and your partner are on the same page. As well as physical boundaries, it’s also important for you to be aware and considerate of emotional boundaries and intimacy. Take your time getting to know your partner and revealing your emotional and spiritual self.
Dating Mistakes Conclusion
Your heart is precious and you should be careful and discerning with who you give it to. Remember to believe in yourself and know that you are worthy of a good, healthy relationship. Take your time getting to know someone and don’t settle for the first opportunity that presents itself. When you feel lost, disheartened, or confused, remember that you can always turn to God and His teachings to help guide you in the right direction.
Katherine Rundell is a relationship writer, and regularly writes about Christian dating. She enjoys helping others find love and sharing advice on how to navigate through the world of Christian dating. Katherine is also a successful proofreader at Resumention. When not writing, she enjoys spending time reading and supporting her local church.
I don’t think #2 actual means what it says. An edit is needed for clarification. As is, it could easily be misconstrued to mean that it is God’s will that ALL relationships end with a breakup. It should, instead, say “many” relationships, following the will of God, will breakup. It’s also true that many relationships, not following the will of God, will breakup. Both are true. But just as true, is the fact that a good man and a virtuous woman could meet each other and forever be in relationship that no man puts asunder.
This is so refreshing and solidly based on God’s Word! Perfectly fitting for this Christian dating site! Encouraging and well-written!
Blessings!
I hope everyone with a past relationship that did not prosper will take note of this and would make use of their failed relationship to improve and be the better version of themselves in accordance with the will of God. I would say, obedience to the Word would always result to blessing, and disobedience to the Word will lead to a failed relationship.
Thank you for this article I have benefited so much from it. Am going to be careful especially on allowing friends and family to influence my relationship.
It’s not a good idea to be desperate for a relationship.
In regards to the article about dating the author needs to be more specific on sexual sin in relationships. Call it what it is sin. God will not honour that relationship if you are both intimate in it They should not be mentioned amongst christians. If you are in a relationship where you are sexually involved stop it immediately it is not God’s will. Repent and seek counsel accountability partners don’t put yourself in positions will said that a very difficult sin to stop.