Today’s blog features a guest post by Garrett Conover.
Tinder has long been a staple of online dating. Unfortunately, it has also become a breeding ground for instant gratification and thus given online dating a bad reputation. Tinder has also made judging someone purely on their appearance a perfectly normal and acceptable thing to do.
What ChristianCafe.com has to offer that Tinder doesn’t
ChristianCafe.com offers something Tinder or any other mainstream dating site or app doesn’t. It’s a user-friendly online cafe with a database full of like-minded single Christians. They’re here looking for their forever match who shares their faith. Sure, appearances matter, but it’s really about character, integrity, and Godliness for them. If this is what you’re looking for, then ChristianCafe.com is the place for you!
When dating or courting someone, looks will always play a part, but as mentioned, what really matters are character and values. Tinder can train us to not take these into account and rather mindlessly swipe. Today I want to go over why Tinder isn’t a good place to be if you’re a Christian single. More and more, I see that people have very little patience when it comes to finding who they are supposed to be with and marry.
Check out our past blog post about what to look for in a Christian relationship
Tinder doesn’t promote a healthy way of communicating
Tinder is a culprit in many ways, the first being that finding a person you are meant to be with doesn’t just appear in front of you. People are very quick to simply move on to the next match or continue to swipe. Almost all decisions are made based on physical appearance and rarely a person’s character. In the long run, this habit of quickly moving onto the next person is harmful, as it doesn’t promote a healthy way of communicating.
Tinder is a place where people often go for validation from others. This can be harmful because we stop looking to God for assurance or guidance instead of looking to other people we don’t know. This can be very harmful because we can stray from who we really are and who God wants us to be.
Tinder’s instant gratification vs. ChristianCafe.com’s communication
It is no secret that Tinder promotes a promiscuous lifestyle. The premise of Tinder and the “hookup” culture surrounding it go hand-and-hand. What makes the issue more significant is that it’s viewed as cool to participate in this. Often, this can distract us from our relationship with God. And, how He wants us to live righteously and not engage in fornication.
The main point of Tinder is to find someone to hook up with, versus having a relationship with. In short, Tinder is really just making it easier for people to cave into their desires and look for instant gratification. There is no such thing as a free lunch, and as a result, instead of staying true to ourselves and our values, we can get lost in chasing momentary fulfillment instead of lifelong fulfillment. This is not how God designed us to be!
In short, Tinder has many downsides and very few upsides. Of all the dating apps and websites out there, Tinder is far from a good option. I think this is especially true if you are a Christian.
Don’t use Tinder if you want a serious relationship
If you’re serious about meeting someone special for dating or courting, come check out ChristianCafe.com. It was designed specifically for Christians looking for their life-long marriage partner. It has a great free trial, where you can interact with exciting Christian singles with no obligation. This includes messaging those you find interesting and responding to those who’ve expressed an interest in getting to know you. Check out www.christiancafe.com/welcome/join.jsp to get started today!
Garrett Conover is a writer with The Dating Site Index