Are we in tune with God? Are we really paying attention when He is telling us to stay in the relationship we are in, or when He tells us we should break up (even if we think the relationship has potential)? Learn with this relationship advice a few tips on how to understand the different ways God speaks to us and if God always answers our prayers.
Dear Jim: Do you think you have to have a definite “yes” or “no” from God on relationships?
Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 10:31 ‘Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.’ This is certainly applicable to relationships.
While this statement is certainly true, I find some singles discern this to mean that God will send a strong feeling or some voice from Heaven, etc. to signal when the ‘right one’ arrives. My concern is that the right one may have come and the single was ‘looking’ when they should have been ‘listening’.
Some Christian singles look at the singleness stage as a lonely period as they look hard to find someone with whom to start a meaningful relationship. Can the single person do something about it? What are the instructions found in the Bible? Should we be content whatever our circumstances?
Dear Jim: Single life is not fun for me. How does God expect me to be happy?
Many singles find themselves single after many years of wanting to be married or at least in a meaningful relationship. The more years that go by seem to generate more voices saying that something is wrong and yet, there seems to be nothing that you can do about it.
When the bill comes, who should pay it on a first date? Most men feel they should but some women don’t feel comfortable letting men pay on their initial date. What is the sensible thing to do? Is going “dutch” on a first date ok?
Dear Jim: Do you have any suggestion as to who should pay the expenses on a first date?
This is another question that I am often asked. Times have changed in many cultures and it makes it unclear who should be paying for the expenses. Allow me to share some thoughts as you consider this:
Can I date and eventually marry someone who’s divorced? What should I do if I found the right person, but he/she is divorced? What does the Bible says about it and what does God wants us to do?
Dear Jim: If I marry a divorced person, will I have committed adultery and go to hell as the Bible says?
This question pulls together several things that are actually separate issues. God hates sin, there is a penalty for sin, and there are certainly consequences. Before we ‘shoot’ all the divorced people and send them to Hell, I invite you to consider the following:
‘Where was God?’ when everything was going wrong? What should we expect when we see our world crumbling under our feet and the only hope we have is to wait for God’s timing and promise.
Dear Jim: Where can I find hope when all hell is going on around me?
Single Adults, many are going through a prolonged hell in their lives and the odds of ever finding a stable and joyful life again seem dim. My concern is that all of us not lose hope!
Do you know how many times the word ‘hope’ is mentioned in the Bible? I was surprised as I looked to some software I have for Biblical concordance. This word is spread throughout both the Old and New Testament. David’s words in the Psalms are especially meaningful. Take a look at some of David’s thoughts:
With the New Year, we see Christian singles seeking new relationships and their worries about running out of time to find that special someone. Dr. Jim explains that everything is in God’s hand and we should gear down and look at what is the best approach to seeking our future spouse.
Dear Jim: What is your hurry?
Time is an element of this world. The first ‘click’ of the clock was set into motion by God, and He will be the one to step in and stop the pendulum from swinging. Time totally controls our world, but time is not present in Heaven!
The Bible shares with us that, among other attributes, God is Omniscient (all knowing). Since He is not controlled by time, He knows everything at once. For us, we have to describe this as past, present, and future. God does not have a past, present and future – He IS, or as He stated it ‘I AM’.
New Year is just around the corner and once again Christian singles are wondering what it is going to be to start a new year alone and how to obtain encouragement in God’s Word about being single when they would like to be dating someone.
What to do as a Christian single for New Year’s Eve.
If you’re single, you might be thinking: “Not again, another New Year’s Eve and I’m single”. Or, family members may be making remarks, or asking if you’re dating someone, or if you’ve found somebody interesting.
Christmas spirit should be around us all year round, not just now. Christ’s birth has lots to teach us and to show His plan for redemption for all mankind. Let us celebrate this great gift God has presented to us over 2,000 years ago with Christmas wishes to all that are in need.
Christmas wishes for this time of the year.
Many Christian singles spend the evening with family or friends, but as one of their Christmas wishes is to be with someone, they can feel alone and distressed. However, another way to view this Season is to see Christmas as a season of inspired giving and charity. When we put aside our own worries, and focus on those less fortunate, our own burden can feel less heavy and we can experience the true Christmas “spirit”. While celebrating our Savior’s birth, let us also remember to praise our Creator, which can make our lives special and meaningful to others.
Often Christian singles are in doubt while searching for a soul mate, and a question comes up: has God selected a soul mate for me or is there more than one? And, will it be up to me to pick the right person? Dr. Jim shows us what we should understand about God’s desires for our lives.
Dear Jim: Does God have a soulmate for me, or is there more than one and it is up to me to find?
This question has been around a long time. Christian singles develop a variety of beliefs regarding this – thinking that they have THE interpretation from God/Bible. One thing is clear, the Bible does not directly answer this question for us. I suggest that an answer has to take into consideration the attributes of God as well as how He created us. Let me share some thoughts that contribute toward an answer.
Even before we look for that special someone on a Christian dating site, let’s learn how we should love – and see love. It’s the best way to have a healthy relationship.
What things should I be looking for in a Christian relationship?
Our natural side often directs us to look for the wrong things when seeking a new relationship. Some of the forces at play are ‘normal’ drives, but they too often take on more significance than they should, for example, the physical side. I don’t think that I need to direct any comments toward personal preferences that you may have, and these have their place. However, I would invite you to consider that things that are SO important in dating become relatively insignificant after marriage.