You’ve done the back and forth online with someone you’re interested in. Now it’s time to meet in person – whether for coffee, a drink, dinner, mini-golf or whatever else. You have a coupon for this fine establishment you want to take your date to. Is it OK to use that coupon on a date? Would your date feel that you’re cheap – or would she think you’re just really good with your money?
This very topic has been debated extensively on the ChristianCafe.com Forums (discussion thread here for those with a Cafe login).
The consensus among women in our Forums is one of three things:
2. Yes, it shows he’s good with money!
3. Not on a first date, but after it’s ‘ok’.
A few excerpts:
“I would love to be able to go to a nicer place to eat because my date had a coupon than otherwise.”
“I have no problem with someone being careful with what they have–it’s how I was raised, and I would WANT to see that value in someone I dated.”
“why waste what can be doing other good work for God!? I am not into how things “look”…I am into getting to know someone and enjoying their company.”
“I would have no problem with a coupon, as long as I didn’t have to pay! :)”
“I would not see a coupon as a problem if we’d been dating for a bit, but I would definitely have a problem with a coupon on a first or second date. “
“I wouldn’t mind my date using a coupon. Although he better leave a nice tip.”
“A coupon wouldn’t bother me at all. I use them all the time! I understand dating can get expensive for men, and I certainly don’t want anyone swiping a credit card they can’t pay off at the end of the month because of me.”
“… if I am going on a serious first date, and I see the coupons coming…then that’s it…he just signed his death warrant :)”
“Agree. On the other hand, if it’s a coupon for Mcdonalds… that’s gotto be a little off putting especially if you don’t know the person that well.”
“I stick with my original assertion. I really don’t care if he uses a coupon or not. And how would I know? Am I gonna snoop over his shoulder when the bill comes? Puh-leez!”
“Well to be honest if I was back in my 20’s I would probably say “shock and horror!!” lol…but now that I’m about to turn 40 I can say I’d find it attractive!”