When Christian singles play dating games (“head games”) with a potential mate, the harmful results can destroy potential relationships. Dr. Jim gives suggestions on how to avoid the trap of dating game players.
Dear Jim: I’m receiving a lot of emails from those who are playing games. What do you suggest?
Games are something that comes along with dating. It should NOT happen, but it is very common. Some of the ‘games’ are not intentional, but too many are.
What do I suggest?
First, it is important that you not be using the Internet for dating without an accountability group. I suggest that you find 1 or more Christians of your own gender to form a support/accountability group. They can be very helpful in keeping perspective as you go through this experience.
Share with this group how you’ve approached contacting or responding to others. Perhaps they can see some ways to not get caught up with dating “games”.
How do you avoid others who play dating games? Sometimes our expectations get ahead of reality and cause our feelings to get hurt.
See our previous blog post about How to keep your expectations in check.
I realize that my response has focused on what you can do. This is all that is under your control and what others do is not something that you have control over. I write my articles with the desire to address this and hopefully have my readers gain new insight.
Matthew 7:12 ‘Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.’ The Golden Rule should be the guideline for all of us!
“My prayers are with you, asking God to protect you and guide you to days of great joy and peace.”