ChristianCafe.com guest writer K.L. Freebyrd writes about the real meaning of true love. This is about what some people dream about and what reality brings us. And, how building a solid relationship in Christ can make our relationships stronger with each other.
What is true love?
A question millions of us ask ourselves at some point in our lives, whether seeking a mate in the dating scene, or just after a breakup. It is a question that Christians and non Christians have struggled with throughout the ages. It’s controversial and often subjective.
Some people dream of a knight in shining armor saying all the right things at all the right times, without a single complaint, whisking us away off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Others may think it means having an undeniable, unfading connection with a soul mate who never argues and accepts us exactly how we are without judgment or strife. Sounds great, doesn’t it? There are just a few small flaws with that perception.
We live in a fallen world and we are all flawed.
John 16:33 says “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
The Bible also states “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23
“We live in a fallen world and we are all flawed.”
When we start to put other people in our hearts in the place where Christ should go, we are sure to come up short and end in disappointment. “But seek first His kingdom and righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” Matt. 6:33
So what does God have to say about true love?
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends” 1 Corinth. 3:4-8
I have found that when two people are in agreement about their definitions of love, priorities, effort, and about putting God first, that’s true love. Honoring your commitments, setting appropriate boundaries and expectations, and working together with unity and clear communication as Jesus would do is what makes a healthy, happy relationship last.
What to look for in a Christian Relationship?
Love As Christ Loved
Love isn’t always a feeling. Feelings can fade, change, and be deceiving. But a solid relationship in Christ is a foundation that can withstand any storm. Love as Christ loved, and choose a partner that not only values that, but chooses to do the same and that’s a healthy recipe for true love.
May His true love bless you today as you seek Him first.
“A solid relationship in Christ is a foundation that can withstand any storm.”