Can a dream make Christian singles sin? How about erotic dreams? Can they be controlled? How should you deal with them? Dr. Jim points out that what we do in our waking can have a great impact on our dreams.
Dear Jim: Does God consider having erotic dreams a sin?
Dreams are something that I believe everyone experiences. I am not an expert on the subject, but I understand that there are many reasons that we have dreams. It is certainly not scientific, but I find that if I get hot during the night from being covered too much, I wake up tired from dreaming a lot.
Can you control what you dream? In most cases I do not believe we can ‘directly’ control what we dream. However, there are some surrounding circumstances which could contribute to our having dreams. These ‘could’ be a sin – while the dream itself is not. Let me share some of these:
- Proverbs 23:7 tells us that as we allow our mind to ‘think’ – so are we. IF we fill our minds during our conscious (awake) hours with thoughts that are sinful, these could contribute to our having erotic dreams. The dream is not a sin, but the thoughts that we allowed ourselves to think or experience while awake could be a sin.
- We are creatures of choice. An erotic dream could be nothing sinful at all, within itself. However, if after we awake we ‘allow’ ourselves to dwell on the dream and lust after it, it has now become a sin.
- I suspect in most cases that a sexual or erotic dream is nothing to be alarmed about – if it happens rarely. Just ‘choose’ to not think on it and allow it to penetrate your thoughts. IF you find yourself dreaming these type dreams frequently, I would suggest that you find a counsellor to share this and ask for their guidance. It could be your sub-conscious trying to deal with something unhealthy in your life. You need to discover what this is and take steps to remove it from your life.
Erotic Dreams: Temptation is not a sin.
As humans, we are confronted often with temptations. Temptation is NOT a sin, it is what we do with the temptation that can become a sin. God does not tempt us, but allows Satan to tempt us. God’s motivation in doing so is so that we will grow stronger when we resist. (James chapter 1 shows how God uses temptation to grow us stronger in His character.) One of my favorite scriptures is 1 Corinthians 10:13 ‘There hath no temptation taken you but such as man can bear: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation make also the way of escape, that ye may be able to endure it.’
May I say – Happy Dreams! :)